Hello fellow bloggers! I have decided to partake in the 30 Days of D/s, which I will utilize as a writing exercise, presented by John Brownstone and Kayla Lords at Loving BDSM. As suggested by the title, this free activity explores topics surrounding D/s relationships. I know that there are many of us in this particular circle of writers who are engaged in this writing activity at the moment, so bear with me. I think that this will be a useful endeavor in further exploring this new lifestyle that Daddy and I have set out on. As always, thank you for reading!
Loving BDSM’s 30 Days of D/s – Day 10
So, the question today is, what’s your safeword? If you don’t want to have one, why not?
Daddy and I do not have a safe word. We made this decision together at the start of our D/s relationship five months ago as we both felt that it was important for Daddy to have the ultimate control over my body. If we had a safe word, I would have control over my own discipline, have the ability to make it stop when I wanted to, and this was not appealing to either of us. Having spent 14 years together, I fully trust Daddy with my life, with everything…and especially with my discipline.
Daddy doles out pretty harsh spankings when I earn them. There are many times during a spanking when I am crying out “please no” or “please stop Daddy” because in the moment, I cannot imagine taking any more. However, I am always able to take his spankings, even when I am pushed passed my pain threshold and cry real tears. It is not uncommon for me to have a sore bottom for several days after as my bottom is bruised from the paddle or cane. In our marriage, this is the sign of an effective spanking and I am far less likely to displease Daddy in whichever way earned me the spanking in the first place. That’s just what works for us. If I were able to use a safe word, and stop my own discipline, Daddy would never be able to get me to “that place”. I’ve heard other submissives refer to it as “sub space”. For me, it is the place where I truly learn that my poor behavior was unacceptable and that Daddy is going to make me change. And…though extremely painful… I love being in that place. Thanks to Daddy’s discipline, I am becoming a much better person and a much better wife.
Daddy and I had a great conversation about hard and soft limits last night (the discussion prompt for Day #9). It was comforting that we are, as always, on the same page. I am far more adventurous sexually than he is, but he is willing to try some of the activities we learned about from Loving BDSM’s kink checklist (gosh, we are so vanilla in some ways!). He told me that he would buy a special collar for me that he will put on me in the evenings sometimes, to give me a physical reminder of who I belong to. I know that I am incredibly lucky to have a Daddy that I can trust, who has my best interests at heart, and who values and protects our marriage.
Thank you for being you Daddy! I love you, yesterday, today, and always.
Your little girl,