Posted in TMI Tuesday

TMI Tuesdays…spicy!!! #NSFW, 18+

  1. If your lover was turned on by forced feminization would you participate (giving or receiving)?

*forced feminization is the practice of enforcing activities on a male, which are typically associated with women, to make him submissive. For example: wearing lingerie, heels, make-up.

LOL…I don’t see this happening, but IF my husband had this type of fantasy, I would do whatever it took to please him and make him feel loved and secure.  It’s not something that I fantasize about personally…I’m more the Alpha male kinda girl 😊

  1. When you have sexual dreams or fantasies that are aggressive or cruel, does it worry you?

Honestly, I have sexually violent dreams A LOT.  Does it worry me?  Not really…though it is a little perplexing, I suppose.  In my typical violent sex dream, I am kidnapped and raped by my kidnapper…and for some reason, I am always turned on in the dream.  I think what it says about me is that I desire that lack of control (not that I actually want to be kidnapped and raped).

  1. Tell us your hottest, sexiest fantasy, right now, in 100 words or less.
    This is the fantasy about your desires that you probably never share, maybe they even go against your morals or are societal taboos.

That’s a funny question, as I write a “sex” blog and all I do is talk about taboo stuff!!! One of my biggest fantasies is this:  It begins in the kitchen, where I say or do something that Daddy finds disrespectful.  He calmly, but firmly, takes me by the hair and drags me into our bedroom.  He forces me over the chaise lounge and strips down my pants and panties, while he lectures me about showing him the proper respect.  He then proceeds to spank me with the strap until I am crying and remorseful.  He then fucks my ass until he comes (not allowing me to cum) and when he is finished, he puts me in the corner with a bar of soap in my mouth.

Taboo?

  1. Which super hero would you like to have sex with? Why?
    a. Aquaman
    b. Superman
    c. Wonder Woman
    d. She-Ra

Um…none of the above, though I do tend to favor Jason Momoa.  Are there any super heroes with octopus tentacles?  The idea of having sex with a man with eight tentacles seems pretty hot….

  1. Do you think the lure to live out sexual fantasies or have sex frequently is amplified by technology? Briefly explain.

I think that technology (the internet, smart phones, etc.) enables a greater part of the population to view porn, which may expose people to sexual material they may not otherwise have been aware of.  In this way, I think that technology can “lure” us into certain sexual desires or fantasies.  I recently saw a video where a woman was tied down over a saw horse, being spanked with a strap.  After, she was fucked in the ass by her disciplinarian.  Yep…definitely a new fantasy of mine!  I don’t think I would have dreamt up this fantasy on my own.   But more than anything, I think that technology has opened the door to different types of sexual and emotional cheating in relationships.  A lot of people don’t feel like it is “cheating” if it is all on-line and you don’t meet the person face-to-face.  I disagree…any type of emotional connection outside of one’s primary relationship is cheating, unless all parties are okay with it.  Sorry…I digress.  Rant over.

Bonus: Describe your fantasy life in three (3) words.

Health, wealth, happiness 🙂

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Happy TMI Tuesday!

Posted in Sex & Submission

Day 4 of Sex & Submission, Letter “D” #NSFW 18+

Day 4 of Sex & Submission, Letter D

Picture this…I’m lying in bed besides Daddy as the sun comes up this morning.  Before I even open my eyes, I feel the sticky wetness between my thighs and I know that I have been having naughty dreams.  I look over at him and his sexy bare shoulder coming out of the covers, the rise and fall of his chest as he breathes.  Oh how I long to start suckling on his neck, my yearning form pressed against his glorious back and ass, as I reach around to fondle his…

Yep, you guessed it.

My “D” word is DICK.  Or, dick-o-licious.  Or, dick-tastic.  But for me, on this beautiful morning…it is all about the dick.

Long, hard, pink…amazing. And, ready for action.

I want to ride that dick.  I want to suck that dick. I want that dick to fuck me in every hole until I see stars and beg for mercy.

I am squirming in my seat as I write this.  I am not allowed to wake Daddy up on weekends; I am to let him wake naturally so he is well-rested.  But the moment I sense he is awake…I am going to pounce that dick….I am going to worship that dick.

Hope your Saturday morning is as lovely as I am hoping mine will be 😊

Happy reading and writing!

Love, nora

Posted in Sex & Submission

Day 3 of Sex & Submission, Letter “C” #NSFW, 18+

26 Days of Sex & Submission, A-Z Challenge

LOL…I am laughing at myself for my total failure in following through with my own writing challenge!  It’s been quite awhile since I posted Day 2 of my Sex & Submission Challenge.  Well, here goes it!

Day 3 of Sex & Submission, Letter C

All afternoon, it’s like the letter “C” has been branded with a hot iron upon my mind…clitoris, corporal punishment, cunnilingus, chastise, coitus, carnal knowledge, craving, cunt, cane, cuffs…oh my…so many decadent ideas to choose from!  Where does a naughty blogger even begin?  Well, I have to start somewhere, so let’s start with “crying”.

For me, crying is an incredibly important stage in a discipline spanking.  When I finally break down and cry, it means that 1) The pain has become intense and nearly intolerable (which is a good deterrent against future bad behavior, and 2) That I am not only physically, but mentally and emotionally ready to submit to my husband.  I see crying as a release…a release of power, stubbornness, and ego.  When I cry from the pain of a spanking inflicted by my Daddy, I feel small, submissive, and ready to obey.

And yet, it is rare that I truly cry from the pain of a spanking.  I may cry out, and plead for it to end…but real tears are often just a few more spanks away.  Does this mean that Daddy is stopping my spanking prematurely?  I worry that he may be.  I worry that this might be why he has to spank me for repeated offenses.  And, I worry that my spankings may have become “routine”.  I understand how this has happened…time constraints, worrying about the effects the sounds may have on our pets, being married to a kind man who doesn’t have a sadistic bone in his body and actually doesn’t like hurting me, and so on….but, I think it is time for Daddy and I to have a conversation about crying.

I will most likely regret writing this post as I feel Daddy will see it as a cue to take my spankings to the next level…time will tell!

Thank you for reading 😊

Love, nora

Posted in D/s

Do I need to wash your mouth out with soap, young lady?

Last night, Daddy and I were snuggled up, watching comedian, Dane Cook.  We were talking and laughing and I made some sort of a snarky comment, with disrespectful undertones.  I felt the air chill a bit as Daddy turned to me.  The way his eyes were now boring down into mine made my heart begin to beat faster.

“Do I need to wash your mouth out with soap, young lady?” He asked, his voice dangerously low.

“No, Daddy, I’m sorry,” I said, quickly.  “I didn’t mean to be disrespectful, really, I didn’t. I’m so sorry.”

He continued to stare into my eyes, deep into the depths of my soul, as if checking that my apology was indeed sincere.

Finally he said, “Watch your tone, young lady.  I know we are watching comedy and having fun, but that does not give you license to speak to me however you please.  Am I understood?”

“Yes, Sir,” I said, meekly, eyes downcast.

“This is your only warning this evening.”

“Yes, Daddy…thank you,” I said, honestly grateful that I had received any warning.

“Who are you?” He asked, his voice changing.  I now heard the loving Daddy tone in his voice that made my heart sing.

“I am Daddy’s beautiful, obedient baby girl,” I recited.

“And who am I?”

“You are my Husband and my Daddy,” I responded, beginning to smile.

“And who loves his baby girl?”

“Daddy does,” I said, grinning.

“Good girl,” he said, as he hit resume on the remote.

Whew….a date with the soap was not what I was wanting for our Friday night…I better check myself!

Happy Saturday, ya’all! 😊

Love, nora

Posted in D/s

Further musings on my own submission…

Last week, I got very caught up in the idea of, “Is D/s my real life?”.  This week, after much reflection, I realize that the question in itself is problematic and that I was basically just getting caught up in terminology (the word “real”).  I’ve come to the conclusion that yes, D/s is very real to me, and that it is a part of my “private” life.  Just because most of my friends and family are unaware that my husband and I engage in D/s, does not make it any less real for us…just private.

That’s settled.

But, that got me thinking about a topic that came up while dialoging with Alpha and kat (if you aren’t following them…you should be!).  I realized that the word “submissive” doesn’t ring true for me.  I am not submissive…not naturally, anyway.  In my life outside of my home, I am very much an assertive, go-getter type.  I hold advanced degrees in two areas of study, and am often described by others as a leader.  My friends and family often look to me for advice and help.  I am solid, dependable, and good in almost any situation.

However,… I am submissive to my husband, or at least, I am trying to be.  I desire to submit to him.  I long to be the kneeling, obedient, pliant sub that we both envision me being.  I yearn to give him foot rubs in the evening and to hear him call me his “good girl”.

What is up with that?  Why would a beautiful, intelligent, articulate, worldly woman (yes, tooting my own horn a bit—it’s called self-love!)…want to kneel before her husband and rub his stinky feet? (Okay, they aren’t actually stinky, but I have a flair for the dramatic at times).

Why does a non-submissive woman want to be submissive?

Pondering on this…there are lots of reasons.  I think the biggest reason for me is that I get to give up control.  I don’t have to make decisions, I don’t have to think…I only have to obey.  This is attractive to me as it is much less stressful than being in control. The next biggest reason is what it does for my husband (see how selfish I am!  Shouldn’t my biggest reason to be submissive have to do with the needs of my husband?).  He has told me that it helps him to feel more confident, more in control, and that it charges his sex drive.  Another big reason (for me, again) is that it charges my sex drive!  The idea of being taken-in-hand and disciplined by a strong male figure is such a huge turn on for me!  I am a self-proclaimed spanko and have been for as long as I can remember.

There are some who might say, think back to your childhood…what happened there?  Are you longing for the strong male figure that you never had? Nope.  Sorry folks, I have an awesome father, and I had an awesome mother.  My childhood was incredibly happy.  It wasn’t until my late 20’s that things began to unravel between my parents, and even then, they still showed each other a lot of love and respect.

Others might ask…is it a low self-esteem thing?  Nope, not even close.  I’ve always had high self-esteem, even through those awkward teen years.  It has only been this year, for the first time in my life, I’ve felt a little insecure as I started to experience a skin condition called “rosacea”.  This is really the only thing in my 38 years of life that I have ever felt self-conscious about.

You might be wondering…was she ever abused?  Nope, not that either.

To sum it up…I don’t have Daddy-issues, I don’t have low-self esteem problems, I haven’t suffered abusive relationships…and yet, I long to submit to my husband.  I’ve come to the conclusion that my submission to my husband is an attractive option to me because it benefits both of us in several ways…1) I get to lose control, and he gets to have control, and 2) Sex, sex, sex, sex, sex

It’s all about sex, baby!

Thank you for reading this dribble!  Much appreciated 😊

Love, nora

P.S.  And please don’t think it has escaped my attention that my last post began by stating how I didn’t need to answer the “whys” to these questions…and here I am, pondering away 😊

Posted in D/s

Is D/s my “real” life?

I tend to take the world at face value…meaning, I don’t often spend much time analyzing the “why’s” when it comes to my own life.  Examples to illustrate this concept could be….why do I want to submit to my husband, or why do I desire to have my husband implement corporal punishment on me if I break one of our rules?  For me, it is simple…the answer is, I just do.  I don’t question “why” as it isn’t of much importance to me.

When I explore that thought though, I do wonder… “why?”.  Why don’t I seem to be as invested in figuring out the “why’s” as much as some of my fellow bloggers?  Am I just a lazy thinker?  Is it that I spend way too much of my time at work (both as a psychologist, and as a professor) helping others to see the “why’s”?  Or, does it have to do more with my overall world view…”let it be”.  Who the heck really knows…

But this question, “is D/s my real life” is one that has been nagging at me.  I awoke this morning to find a post written by furcissy, further teasing out this concept and I just can’t stop thinking about it.  I’m not sure I can say that D/s is my “real” life as very few of my friends and family know that my husband and I have invoked a power exchange in our marriage.  Yes, I am “out” to my WordPress family, and I have told two of my girlfriends about it…but for the most part, D/s is kept under wraps.  Not everyone is like this.  For example, blogger ddjennifer has come out about D/s to her family and her friends (if you are not following her yet, you should be!).  To me, this seems more real, and yet…I cannot imagine it for my own life.

However; is this the only aspect to something being your “real” life?  Probably not.  After all, D/s is something that consumes a lot of our time.  My husband and I talk about it a lot, we live it during our days, and I spend an awful lot of time writing about it and reading about it on the blogs of others…it is absolutely at the forefront of my mind.

Reflecting on all of this, and considering perspective and personal constructs, I guess it boils down to this… it really doesn’t matter.  I am happy living the life that I am living.  Much of my personal life…our D/s, my spanking fetish, my love of sex & masturbation… all of that is private, but it is “real” to me.

If you stuck out this post until the end…thank you!  It is not often I get all philosophical on you 😊

Have a sexy Sunday, ya’all!

Love, nora

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Walking on Sunshine

Good morning my WordPress friends!  Just wanted to say hello and wish you a lovely day!  We have been having gorgeous weather here and I have spent much time frolicking about in my yards (not usually naked, but love the picture!), trying to keep up with the new growth.  In case you didn’t know, I am obsessed with the natural beauty of flowers, trees, shrubs…pretty much anything I can grow 😊

A few notes…

D/s is alive and well in our household!  I’ve been actively working on my submission and Daddy has definitely been focusing on his dominance.  I earned a spanking outside the other day, but that’s a whole other story…

I’m thinking it is time for some new sex toys…any recommendations?

Also…has anyone heard from lurvspanking?  For someone who used to post every single day, his absence is felt in my news feed.  Hoping everything is okay there.

Have a wonderful day!

Love, nora