Reflecting on 30 Days of D/s- Day 17

Hello fellow bloggers! I have decided to partake in the 30 Days of D/s, which I will utilize as a writing exercise, presented by John Brownstone and Kayla Lords at Loving BDSM.  As suggested by the title, this free activity explores topics surrounding D/s relationships.  I know that there are many of us in this particular circle of writers who are engaged in this writing activity at the moment, so bear with me.  I think that this will be a useful endeavor in further exploring this new lifestyle that Daddy and I have set out on.  As always, thank you for reading!

~nora

Loving BDSM’s 30 Days of D/s – Day 17

 

We’re big champions of getting out into the local kink community. It’s not always possible for everyone, and sometimes the local community isn’t the right fit. But if you haven’t tried it yet, it’s definitely worth thinking about. You meet more people. You learn new things. And you spend time with people who understand you on a level you might not be used to. Today, think about whether you think you’ll find a munch, a club, or a party.

Prompt: Have you done it in the past? What was your experience? Are you nervous or shy? Explore your feelings and consider whether the local community is a viable option for you.

One lesson that I have learned is to never say never.  With that said, it is probably very unlikely that Daddy and I will ever venture out into the local kink community and not because either of us are nervous or shy.  Please note, I haven’t actually talked to Daddy about this but I know that I have very little interest in attending a munch or play party.  I imagine that he has similar feelings, but that is definitely something for us to discuss.  I think that a big part of the reason why I have little interest in this is because I already get to talk with other kinky folk here on WordPress.  For now at least, that satisfies the need that I have to be able to converse with others, share my experiences, learn new things (you all have taught me A LOT!!!), and learn about different perspectives on various lifestyles.  If I did not have that outlet, I may feel differently about this.

What Daddy and I are doing, how we are choosing to re-define our marriage, is something we both feel is very private between us (this probably sounds ridiculous coming from me as I blast it all over WordPress, but isn’t anonymity a grand thing?).  However; together we decided that I could trust my best friend with this information so that I would have one “real” person with whom I could talk to about it.  I am lucky to have had the same best friend for 30+ years…she knows me better than I know myself and she was not at all surprised to hear that my husband and I were interested in D/s.  As she and her husband recently began experimenting with swinging and attended a swinger’s party in a nearby city, I think she was excited to hear about some of our adventures with D/s.  I also decided to talk to another friend about it (without Daddy’s permission…big screw up on my part, I should have asked permission) who also had a positive reaction and told me that she was a little jealous as she also identifies as a submissive female.  She had tried encouraging D/s with her now future ex-husband, but it just never worked out that way between them.  In her case, I think that attending a munch or party could be very beneficial as she may meet a potential partner there.

As I wrote above, never say never.  I would love to hear from all of you about the benefits you have personally experienced by attending a munch, party, club, etc.  For those of you who are married, has attending an event like this with your partner produced any benefits?

Happy writing  🙂

~ nora