Hello, dear friends,
This morning I’ve been reflecting on who I am as a person, and as a submissive girl. These thoughts were inspired by my daily gratitude journal (A life of Gratitude ~ Lori Roberts). For today’s writing activity, the wise author directs her readers to consider personal strengths, rather than the traits many of us agonize over and spend a lifetime trying to change. While it is sometimes hard to list our strengths, as to not sound too full of one’s self, it feels like an important exercise.
And so… I started to fill in the blanks, thinking about my good qualities.
I am grateful that I am _____________.
I am strong. I am confident. I am intelligent. I have empathy for others. I persevere. I have strong communication skills. I know my worth. I am decisive. I have integrity. I am a caretaker.
Who I am as a person is who I am as a submissive girl. I strive for authenticity. I am all of the things listed above AND I long to kneel before and serve a dominant man. I think these qualities only enhance my attractiveness as a submissive. I am not a doormat. I kneel because I am strong and confident enough to do so.
But as lovely as it is to focus on my good traits, I am far from where I want to be as a person or as a submissive girl. While I am strong and fairly self-disciplined, I also seek guidance moving down the path of self-betterment. Some of my self-betterment goals include:
Better self-control in various aspects of my life (health & fitness in particular).
Practicing acceptance & embracing change.
Deepening my own understanding of my spirituality.
Deepening my understanding of the world (with regard to economics, politics, social customs, etc.).
Learning to mind my critical tongue.
I have been through a helluva a lot this year, but these experiences have only made me more determined to be the person, and submissive girl, that I know I can be (while still being grateful for my current strengths). And… I imagine there will be a few spankings along the way to help keep me on the straight and narrow 😉.
For those of you reading… what are some of your self-betterment goals? I really should have added “more spankings” and “more sex” to my list!
Thank you for reading, my kinky friends. Thinking of you this holiday season.
XOXO,
nora
Finding Strength in my Submission 
Thinking of you and yours this holiday season. I am grateful for your posts.
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Thank you for reading, my friend! Happy holidays to you and yours! XOXO
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VERY well said, Nora!
For my betterment goals, I would say first that I need to find a better balance between elements in my life. I can “go off the deep end” with one or another at times. It ties to a second goal which is to strive for maturity. I sometimes act like a teenager, not a woman in her thirties. I do not want to turn these things over to my Top. They are MY goals. But I do think I will go to him more in the future for the correction he can provide. When I know I’ve messed-up in either or both of these goals, I plan to request the punishment my soul needs, to help motivate me better. I don’t know if what I’ve said makes sense to you, but it’s been positive for me to reflect upon. Thanks and good luck with your journey!
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Hi Jean! It sounds like you definitely have a few things you’d like to work on. I seek balance, as well. My kink is discipline (via spanking), so I like to let my Dom know in advance what I am working and how we might measure progress. That way he can decide to discipline me if he feels that I am not meeting my goals. Thank you for reading! XOXO
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What a wonderful post Nora, thank you for sharing.
I’m going to reflect on this further, but the first thing that springs to mind is that I’d like to learn to take things less personally when my inner critic starts chuntering. She’s mean.
I look forward to seeing how you progress along your journey N xx
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I totally agree that your good qualities enhance your attractiveness as a submissive woman, but also simply you as a person. When you talk about your strengths, it doesn’t sound at all like you are egotistical, just humbly thankful. You know good qualities when you see them. Recognizing where you can improve, striving for self-betterment with the aid of strict spanking discipline, is sweet humility and submission.
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An excellent post!!
I am at a point in my life where I feel I must re-evaluate a lot of things. My counselor says it’s important not to discount my strengths but it’s hard to do. I believe a major betterment goal is to fully recognize my strengths as well as my weaknesses as I face an unknown future.
Thanx bunches for a deep and resonating post!!
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And thank you for reading my post, paddlefan! It sounds like you have a lot of big things going on right now. I see one of your strengths as the willingness to be vulnerable in this space. I am grateful that you shared something real here, and for this incredibly thoughtful comment. Much love, my friend! Thank you for reading and commenting. XOXO
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I am grateful to have a friend like you, Franz, who totally understands me and my kink. After I posted this, I had second thoughts about how I had written out my strengths, wondering if my readers would perceive me as having a huge ego. I was really hoping not! I have so much about myself that I would like to improve. Thank you for reading, my dear friend ❤ XOXO
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Very well stated, nora. Go for it.
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Thank you, Master Silkenlash! I hope you are having a great trip 🙂 XOXO
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hello Nora while reading your article I ask myself a lot of questions where you wanted to come from so a lot of questioning, changing paths maybe it is reasonable when we have had so much fun in certain areas to change must have a lot of strength and support also the future will tell you who knows 😝👍 good luck Nora looking forward to reading you again in another area that I know you
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Thank you for reading, leds85! I’ll be back to writing my naughty stories soon 🙂 XOXO
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🙏🌹👍🙏🥰👍🙏🌹👍🙏😻👍
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As the years tick by, I come to realize more and more that physical fitness isn’t just about appearance. It’s a critical component of the quality your life as you age. As such, one of my key betterment goals is to improve how I manage my physical health. I go through periods of proper eating and consistent exercise and then stop and resort to my old bad habits. I’d very much like to figure out how to break this cycle in 2023.
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Thank you for sharing this, Dave! I relate to what you have written here and share your feelings. Good health is about so much more than looks (though that is often where our focus lies when we are young). May we both have a healthier 2023!!! Thank you for reading and commenting, my friend XOXO
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Dear Nora,
Having just re-found your blog after having our Blog nuked and contacts lost, it’s great to come back to find you still blogging. Hope that you are keeping well.
A cracking post and some really good points and things to live by.
May I just add an observation – sometimes the world and our Dominants need to hear the “critical Tongue”….even if it does result in a spanking.
Take care and all the best for the holiday season, and glad to be back following the blog.
Kind regards
billie (Mick) and Madam Alice.
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My goals? I would like to get more control over my temper, I can be a bit of a volcano sometimes. Being less of a procrastinator and a bit better at my domestic duties, would be a good thing, too. And I would like to hone my bratting skills, to a higher level 🙂
Prefectdt
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Hmmmm…it sounds like some lovely lady would have her hands full with you, my friend! Great goals. I’d like to procrastinate less too. XOXO
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As someone who really doesn’t understand this, it seems to me that in order to be a great submissive, you really have to know who you are as a person and beyond being a submissive and what you’ve shared tells me that you know who you are.
And why didn’t you put mor spankings and sex on your list?
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LOL…that is a GREAT question, kdaddy! I guess because more sex and spankings requires the participation of another person, and my list was focusing on things that I need to work on. And, you are right… I DO know who I am as a person. And, I like me 🙂
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I understand but aren’t those two things also things to work on? Just asking.
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Unfortunately, I am between a rock and hard place on that one, kdaddy. I’d love to have more sex and spankings, but my Daddy’s health is not good right now.
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I totally understand!
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🙂
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It’s good that you’re appreciating yourself for who you are and also growing and evolving into the you you’re meant to be. 🙂
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Thank you for this beautifully supportive comment, Simon 🙂 XOXO
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You’re welcome 🙂
xoxo
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I think my self betterment goal is to learn to love myself some more 🙂
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That is always a good goal, my friend. I hope you are successful in this endeavor 🙂
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Me too… I’m trying to work it out.
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I always find it hard to do stuff like this. I tend to second-guess myself way too much – a habit I seem to have grown more into than out of.
Recently, I had a super sucky week where I ended up incredibly down on myself, only to get a couple of incredibly kind and encouraging (and unexpected) messages from friends, expressing how they saw me in ways that caught in my throat.
Would be nice to see the person they see more.
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I am guessing you already ARE that person, Woodsy…you just need to let yourself believe it 🙂 XOXO
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Very kind, Nora. Thank you.
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~ blows you a kiss
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This is really interesting. We share this trait of not being a doormat. Most people would describe me as dominant, and I certainly lead groups all the time…and given that I am in and out of the executive suite, it would have never been possible to get there if I were generally submissive. But I so get where you see the role of submission in your own life. There is a very real connection to spirituality. And I am specifically submissive. To a person. To a group of people who may revolve around that same person. And why? Because it helps me to beget a better me. Sounds like you are on a similar journey. Best wishes my spankee friend!
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Thank you for sharing this thoughtful comment, my beautiful friend! I doubt I could have gotten as far as I am being submissive “in general” either. My dominance and strength has served me well over the years. But…there is something within me now that longs to kneel before the right person. And I definitely want to be a better me. Best wishes to you, as well! XOXO
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You are an angel. You already are. Everything about you is delicious. You are already a better you. That’s why you get to have fun.
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You are too sweet to me, gorgeous! I will take the compliment, but also note that like everyone, I have my flaws. I do wish to work on them and be better. Good goals for a new year 🙂
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Strength in submission ..
Perhaps you correctly expressed it. I agree that you are a strong person. Reading your blog, I can come to this conclusion.
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Everything takes time. It’s time for me to work on my sarcasm. It is natural and I revel in it but I do need to be a bit more mindful before I let the words fly out my mouth.
Take care! 🙂
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Fantasy life
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