A sexy self-growth project- 30 days of D/s, part deux (Day 17), NSFW 18+

Hello, my friends!

Four years ago, I participated in the Loving BDSM’s 30 Days of D/s writing prompts and from this experience, I learned a lot about myself and about D/s.  Recently, I embarked on re-reading my former posts and realized that so much of what I have written in the past was either no longer relevant, or, my views on the topics had evolved into something else entirely.  I thought it might be fun to share my before and now posts, side by side.

Also, please note that while I refer to a Dominant as “He” and a submissive as “she” in my writing, this is only done to reflect my own experiences. I do not believe that either role is more inherent to a particular gender.

Keeping it kinky!

XOXO,

nora

Loving BDSM’s 30 Days of D/s – Day 17

We’re big champions of getting out into the local kink community. It’s not always possible for everyone, and sometimes the local community isn’t the right fit. But if you haven’t tried it yet, it’s definitely worth thinking about. You meet more people. You learn new things. And you spend time with people who understand you on a level you might not be used to. Today, think about whether you think you’ll find a munch, a club, or a party.

Prompt: Have you done it in the past? What was your experience? Are you nervous or shy? Explore your feelings and consider whether the local community is a viable option for you.

May 16, 2021

I remember reading this prompt the first time four years ago thinking…no way!  I couldn’t imagine ever feeling comfortable enough, and safe enough, to attend some kind of kink event or to meet other kinksters in person.  Now, my biggest fear is that if I attended something like this… I would want to out myself to everyone that I am naughty nora from WordPress! LOL.  How times have changed.

Each year there is a big spanking party in Las Vegas.  This year it is Labor Day weekend at the Sun Coast Hotel and Casino.  I will definitely be attending this party at some point in the next few years.  Daddy and I love a quick get away to Las Vegas and if neither of us is feeling comfortable enough to join in on the fun, at least there are plenty of other things to hold our attention while we are there 😊.  Plus, it’s Vegas…what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas!

I would also like to attend a dungeon party or stay at a dungeon themed hotel.  From my research, San Francisco, New York, and London all have some pretty neat options.  I like the anonymity this would afford.  Daddy and I could go, potentially play with other people, and not have to worry about running into these people at home (hopefully!).  I imagine wearing something very sexy… as it would be my first time, I might wear all white…garters, stockings, white lace corset…while Daddy would be dressed in all black.  I think it would be fun to wear nothing but my coat over this sexy get up…taking my coat off when we arrived, being clad only in the skimpiest lingerie regardless of who was there.  At a dungeon, I could experience being stretched over a cross, or some other creative furniture designed with discipline in mind.  Ooooh la la…. I am getting excited just thinking about it!  I am so ready to take my kink out into the world!

June 19, 2017

One lesson that I have learned is to never say never.  With that said, it is probably very unlikely that Daddy and I will ever venture out into the local kink community and not because either of us are nervous or shy.  Please note, I haven’t actually talked to Daddy about this but I know that I have very little interest in attending a munch or play party.  I imagine that he has similar feelings, but that is definitely something for us to discuss.  I think that a big part of the reason why I have little interest in this is because I already get to talk with other kinky folk here on WordPress.  For now at least, that satisfies the need that I have to be able to converse with others, share my experiences, learn new things (you all have taught me A LOT!!!), and learn about different perspectives on various lifestyles.  If I did not have that outlet, I may feel differently about this.

What Daddy and I are doing, how we are choosing to re-define our marriage, is something we both feel is very private between us (this probably sounds ridiculous coming from me as I blast it all over WordPress, but isn’t anonymity a grand thing?).  However; together we decided that I could trust my best friend with this information so that I would have one “real” person with whom I could talk to about it.  I am lucky to have had the same best friend for 30+ years…she knows me better than I know myself and she was not at all surprised to hear that my husband and I were interested in D/s.  As she and her husband recently began experimenting with swinging and attended a swinger’s party in a nearby city, I think she was excited to hear about some of our adventures with D/s.  I also decided to talk to another friend about it (without Daddy’s permission…big screw up on my part, I should have asked permission) who also had a positive reaction and told me that she was a little jealous as she also identifies as a submissive female.  She had tried encouraging D/s with her now future ex-husband, but it just never worked out that way between them.  In her case, I think that attending a munch or party could be very beneficial as she may meet a potential partner there.

As I wrote above, never say never.  I would love to hear from all of you about the benefits you have personally experienced by attending a munch, party, club, etc.  For those of you who are married, has attending an event like this with your partner produced any benefits?