Polyamory- a snapshot

As I sit here in my chair, wearing a plug at my Sir’s direction, I feel peaceful and content.  It is a beautiful day here in California.  The weather is fairly warm, the sky a gorgeous blue, and my Daddy is sitting in a lounge chair by the pool with his shirt off.  Next to him, also sunning herself, is a very pretty woman in a bikini.  This is Daddy’s “friend”.  I say friend as they don’t have a sexual connection, with Daddy being out of commission and all.  But she is a woman that he is very close to, texts/calls every day, and sees in person every couple of months.  Right now, he is laughing and smiling, and my heart is swelling with sheer joy. 

If you would have asked me five years ago what I thought of open marriage or polyamory, I would have probably said “sounds interesting”.  If you had asked me ten years ago, I am guessing I would have said, “not for me”.  If you had asked me twenty years ago, when Daddy and I first got together, I think I would have said, “Absolutely not!  Are you crazy?”.  I am smiling now as I reflect on this evolution of thought surrounding this topic.  Yep, I guess I am crazy 😊

Daddy and I have been through a lot on our journey together.  Infidelity (on both sides), death & loss, major milestones (buying a house, career changes, etc.), and now… Daddy is sick.  But we are facing his health crisis with as much grace, dignity, and hope as we can muster.  Some days are harder than others.  Today… is a beautiful day.  Seeing my husband look happy today makes me happy.

Don’t worry, I have my fun too.  First, Daddy gave me an awesome orgasm this morning.  He used those fat sausage fingers of his and really worked me over, until I was writhing in ecstasy (thank you, Daddy).  But I had some other fun today too. 

I am grateful to have Sir in my life, a man who is consistent with my discipline and holds me accountable for my behavior (and if you haven’t figured this out from all my posts yet…spanking as discipline, for genuine misbehavior, is my kink).  Early early this morning, I talked to Sir on the phone.  He took me by surprise when he sent me to the garage for a spanking (he sends me to the garage so that the noise won’t wake Daddy when he is sleeping).  You see, Sir and I are long-distance, but this doesn’t stop him from disciplining me.  This morning, he chose to discipline me for irritating him the other day.  This is only the second time ever that he has disciplined me for this offense (in our nearly two years together).  I obediently took the paddle we have (we chose it on Etsy) and marched to the garage in my jammies.  Sir directed me to lower my pajama shorts and then he gave me a blistering lecture, as he directed me to apply the paddle on his command.  By the end, I was in tears (mostly from disappointing him… his words have a VERY strong effect on me) and my bottom was red and sore. 

Sir also had me write lines for him today and to consider what it means to be “soft” for him.  I inserted the plug at his direction; a little reminder of him and that I am his submissive girl.  I thought about my attitude and what led to my discipline this morning.  Sir always reassures me that I have a right to my feelings, that my feelings are valid, and he works hard to make sure that I know that he loves me, even when I misbehave.  AND on this rare occasion, my emotional outbursts and the pain that it caused him…caused him great irritation.  I thought long and hard on being soft for him and what a privilege it is to be in this D/s dynamic with him.

This is a snapshot of my adventures in polyamory.  Today, I feel happy and content…and GRATEFUL.  I am going to try very hard to hold onto this feeling, to help Daddy and I get through the harder days.

Thank you for continuing to follow my journey, my kinky friends.  It means so much to me to know that you walk beside me.

Keeping things kinky,


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  1. I love submission in a woman. And women who strive to deepen their submission learn a lot about themselves and the person they serve. It may take the better part of a lifetime to learn -and to put into practice – all that submission entails

    Nora I believe you have touched upon one of the fine points. Being soft with your Dominant (s) is such a blessing to that person and it will serve you well in the future.

    Thank you for this post. I have learned from it and enjoyed the words of gratitude, peace ,and happiness in the midst of hardship.

    A GREAT post. Thanx for sharing it with us

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    1. Thank YOU, paddlefan, for this beautiful comment. I have learned so much about myself through my submission to Sir. One big lesson that I have learned, one that I really didn’t know before I met Sir (and I am sorry if this sounds naive)… is that submission is hard. But… in my submission, even though it is hard at times, I have found an inner peace and fulfillment that I have never known. I am very grateful that you read this post and that you penned me such a beautiful message. Thank you, my friend ❤

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      1. What is impressive (one of several things) about your submission is that you have a dominant side that has to be dealt with every day. Instead of giving commands you are submitt

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        1. Blushing. Yes, I DO have a dominant side. I very much have to be “in control” much of the time at home and at work. At times, it is difficult to toggle back and forth between being my naturally dominant self, and submitting to Sir. But I have found that he has certain phrases, this very stern tone, or short activities that move me right into subspace. He often tells me that dominating me is an even greater joy in his life because I am naturally smart, capable, etc.


  2. It’s so wonderful that you and your husband have found polyamory beneficial in your relationship. I feel you on the spanking for irritating your Sir. I got a spanking for pestering Josh today. I was volunteering as choreographer for the theater camp I went to as a kid in early July. And my shoulder was just killing me. So he made me get an appointment. (My friend, Will, who was on staff when I went and still is had a very long conversation with me as well about taking care of my body.) As it turns out my rotator cuff has been torn in two places for two months. So I had surgery about a week and a half ago and I wasn’t allowed to do anything strenuous for 2 weeks preop. So I’ve been begging Josh to have sex with me for 3.5 weeks now and he had had it and spanked me today. (Which is better than nothing) Sorry for the long ramble.


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  3. This may be my favourite post ever of yours. It is so introspective and deep and much appreciated. I felt that this was what you needed after your last post and I am glad that Sir has been tolerant enough to continue to hold space for you. I also know that the combination of stern words, corporal punishment and plugging have an incredibly soothing and hooding effect. Wishing you deeply submissive blessings and happy that you have redound your rhythm in sub space.

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    1. Thank you for this thoughtful comment, my beautiful friend. Yesterday was EXACTLY what I was needing. I feel so at peace and centered this morning. I feel very grateful to have both a loving husband and a Sir who guides me and disciplines me when I need it. And yes…that delicious combination you described…. a stern lecture, a spanking, and being plugged moved me deeply into subspace which was exactly where I needed to be. I hope that life is treating you well, my friend. I know you are smack dab in the middle of some huge transitions in your life. Hugs and love your way ❤ XOXO

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  4. Absolutely superb, nora. I love reading this “painting” of a happy scene in your home during this trying time. Two blogs from you in such a short period of time is a special treat. Thank you, submissive girl.

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  5. Polyamory is the ultimate relationship that can be so… satisfying and in a lot of ways that doesn’t always include sex. Like you, if someone had told me the day I got married that the two of us would ultimately wind up in a polyamorous relationship, I would have laughed in your face and gone on to tell you how ridiculous a notion it was. It is/was the most insane thing I’ve ever experienced and the best experience ever. I’d do it again in a heartbeat. Yeah. Hell yeah.

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    1. I love that we are on the same page about this, kdaddy. I can’t imagine that I was mature enough to handle polyamory when I was in my twenties. It is still hard at times, there are moments of jealousy about certain things, but for the most part… these experiences have enhanced my life in so many ways. XOXO


      1. I understand it and part of the joy of is is… mastering things like feeling jealous and other such things and learning how to be happy because your “partners in crime” are happy even when you’re not involved in their happy moment. I thought being married was… complicated; being monogamous looks like a walk in the park compared to the complexities polyamory can bring to the table but, damn, it just works, doesn’t it? And, again, if you told me that living and loving this way actually makes sense, I would have suggested that you get yourself committed to a mental health institution… but I learned and experienced so much personal growth and, yeah. This. The impossible made possible.

        I need a cold shower now…

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        1. Smiles at your cold shower reference. This stuff IS a turn on! In my situation, I am very grateful for Daddy’s “friend”. At times, he can get in a very dark place…feeling depressed, hopeless, etc. about his diagnosis. I am grateful that she is there to help lift his spirits, give him hope, take care of him emotionally…so that it doesn’t all fall to me. She is really helping to “lighten my load” in this case. I hope that makes sense. Plus…the more people, the more love, and the more thrilling experiences to go around 🙂


  6. Wow, that was a lot to digest. Polyamory comes in so many variations. There never seems to be one set model. Which, on one hand is a good thing and on the other, makes it hard for us, who have not experienced it, to understand it. I will keep reading. It seems the best way to learn.


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    1. I am grateful that you are willing to read these posts, Prefectdt. I know that there can be a lot of judgement around the poly amorous lifestyle. I completely agree with you that there is no one way to do this. Each relationship/dynamic that I have read about seems to be unique to the people in it. If nothing else, I hope that I can provide insight into how joy-giving it can be to have multiple loves in one’s life. I am certainly not saying it is always easy, but I have experienced many benefits of this arrangement. XOXO

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  7. Reading your blog, I really feel close to you. Sometimes I want to comfort you. Sometimes rejoice with you together. Thank you for this opportunity to empathize with you together. And thanks to the Internet for the fact that we have it, bringing together a huge number of people every day.


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