Kink & Tech

I remember being 17 or so the first time I was able to search for spanking images on-line.  Dial up internet and AOL…I was in HEAVEN!  Suddenly, the naughty scenes that had only ever existed in my mind, sprang to life on the computer screen before my greedy eyes.  I also remember learning to delete the search history so mom wouldn’t suspect anything. LOL.  I can still vividly remember how aroused I became that first time, seeing those spanking images on the screen…and that is when I learned to masturbate (I’d had sex and had climaxed, but didn’t realize I could have that feeling on my own accord).  I didn’t quite know what I was doing or why, but I remember grinding myself on a throw pillow to ecstasy.  What a revelation it was that I could do that to myself!  Damn that is a good memory…to be young again and just learning my body 😊

Recently, I was discussing my submission with a new friend (hello, Silkenlash!).  He was sharing a bit about himself and various times in his life when he’d had to live without M/s in his life.  Thinking about this made me incredibly grateful for the internet!  In this day and age, meeting like-minded people who share your kink is much easier than the days of old.  Prior to the advent of the internet, you met people the old-fashioned way (in a bar 😉) and hoped they weren’t vanilla.  Finding a partner in this life is hard enough, but technology has made it a bit easier to connect with people who share your sexual interests. 

This also had me reflecting… could I ever be satisfied without some form of D/s in my life?  Probably not.  I got really lucky that Daddy has been so open to the D/s lifestyle.  Of course, I did vet him properly on our first overnight together way back when.  I remember telling him how I liked to be spanked and how he took me over his knee that night!  While Daddy has always maintained he is a boob man (thank goodness I am blessed in that department), he’s paid plenty of attention to my bottom ever since.

Of course, technology also led me to my D/s dynamic with Sir.  In fact, I met Sir in the same spanking chatroom that I explored in my 20s.  When Daddy gave me permission to start looking for a Dom, I remembered that chatroom and signed up for a free account.  On my second visit there, I met Sir and the rest is history.  Sir and I met one year ago this month.  With the help of instant messaging, email, picture messaging, and the tele, we have a very real and vibrant D/s Dynamic.  We are two people on opposite sides of the country who came together, and can be together, via technology.

I guess the sum of this post is this… thank the heavens for the internet!  Seriously, I wish I could track down the guy that invented it and give him a big ol’ smooch on his kisser.  As an intensely sexual being, I am incredibly grateful that technology allows me to connect with all of you kinky folks in this way and to share my naughty stories and adventures with you.  I am also grateful for the friends I have made in this space and for the Dynamic that I share with Sir. 

Thank the stars for technology!

Keeping it kinky,


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  1. We don’t know where, ultimately, the internet will take the human race, but I know I wouldn’t want to be without it. Like you, I remember those early days and how eye-opening and exciting they were. I had spent many years with no outlet to express my kinky feelings, and with serious doubts about them. I’m thankful for the connection we’ve made. Knowing you from your blog is only possible due to technology, and talking with you about things I never discuss would not have happened. ❤

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    1. I am grateful to know you too, Franz! Thank you for sharing this thoughtful comment and for all the great conversations we’ve had. I realized today that I am pretty lucky. I never had to wrestle with worrying if my kink was “okay” or “normal”…I’ve always had the internet to normalize it for me, with others to converse with about it. I remember the first time a fellow spanko told me about looking up the word “spank” in the dictionary as a child…I thought, yes! These are my people😘

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      1. Thank you, nora! There was the doubt about my kink on the one hand and, on the other, a sense of deprivation. Looking the word up in the dictionary was a compulsion, but seeing the word only made things worse. By the time I was an adult, I was thinking about spanking all the time, but there was way too little out there to feed my appetite for it — not necessarily an active involvement, which seemed highly unlikely — but just to talk about it with anyone, or to find entertainment focused on my particular interests. The idea of a “spanking community” was nowhere on my radar at the time. Then the Internet. A door was opened. I’ve learned so much. What if there was no such technology? I’m not sure where I’d be.

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        1. Thank you for sharing this, Franz! I remember looking up the word “spank” and “paddle” fairly often too, and you are right…it only made it worse… I needed more! When I was lucky enough to come across a book that had a spanking scene, I would read that scene over and over and over again. I am so grateful that with the internet, I’ve been able to fill these needs and to meet others who share my kink. The internet has also afforded me an on-line D/s dynamic with Sir…which I could have never had without the technology to facilitate such things. There would have been this huge part of me that never got to be explored and satisfied.

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  2. I started highschool the year that the first iPhone came out. And so I would sneak onto my brother’s computer while he was at the gym (college athletes am I right?) and search all the naughty things my little heart desired. The first time I did it I did not know how to clear the search history (I think you know how that went down) Ryan came home and opened his computer to do who knows what and saw my search history. When I tell you he was PISSED Ryan was not a yeller (none of them were after they found out it made me cry and unreceptive to what they said) but he yelled that day, and I had to have quite the conversation about what was and wasn’t appropriate with my mom and brothers/sister. I have a sneaking suspicion that the few spankings I got after that were given when Ryan thought I needed the catharsis of crying rather than for any perceived transgressions.

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  3. Loved hearing about your discovery of online kink stuff! I was in my early 20s when I discovered Literotica, which is really what helped me understand that there were other kinksters out there who shared my interests. Technology certainly has helped me explore various fetishes, inclinations, and interests. I, too, am thankful for it! It helped me meet cool people like you! So there’s that. 😁

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    1. Hello, my friend! I don’t think I discovered Literotica until I was almost 30. For a long time, I was just looking at pictures. When I realized how many spanking stories were out there, I started really searching for them as I am much more aroused by what I read than what I see. At that point, I then started writing my own spanking stories. I am grateful that technology facilitated our connection! You are by far my perviest friend, and I take great pleasure in that 🙂

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      1. I learned about Literotica about when it first started. I had just started looking for erotica online and was lucky. Haha. I, too, generally prefer erotic stories (though porn can be very effective at times 😜). It took me quite a while to start writing myself. Glad we both found that outlet. It does help redirect certain urges into something creative. Happy to be your perviest friend! Not sure what that says about me, but I certainly can’t deny it. 😉 Thanks for appreciating my twisted, kinky mind! 😍

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        1. I hope you know that I meant that as a compliment, M! I love that you aren’t afraid to express your kinky desires. Honestly, I really admire that about you. In doing so, you are giving a great gift to others who fantasize about the same things. And… you include just enough of some of my kinks (spanking, anal, butt plugs, etc.) that your erotica arouses me every time! Keep being you, M… you are a pretty amazing guy ❤

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          1. Aw shucks. Gonna make me blush. 🤗 Very nice of you to say! I did take it as a compliment and I appreciate it! Really glad that you enjoy my writing. You’re my favorite reader! Also, you’re pretty amazing yourself! Much more of a badass than me for sure. 😘

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  4. I found the web early on, when the IP addresses were just numbers. My first major spanking site was a “newsgroup” ASS, where I learned I was not the only pervert.

    Amazed that you had sex/orgasm before you learned to masturbate. I thought we all learned that by 12/13.

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  5. Actually the partners I have had kinky relationships with all date back before the internet was a thing. Those relationships still exist to this day.
    However , the internet has provided me with numerous more relationships such as your blog. I’ve met many more people from all parts of the world. Never really realized how many of us with similar interests there actually are. It’s also been a way of exchanging stories which would have otherwise died with me
    Of course the internet porn , especially with these new iPhones, is much better than sitting in a movie theater where your feet stick to the floor and the guy next to you wants to show you his private parts.

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    1. LOL… I had a good giggle at that last part, my friend! I remember going to a live sex theater in Amsterdam when I was in my early 20’s…and the floor was sticky…and I was so grossed out (though I LOVED the live sex show!). I hadn’t thought of the ways technology has helped me to meet people from different countries/cultures…that IS an awesome benefit. So glad to have met you and I feel privileged to hear the stories you’ve been sharing with me 🙂 XOXO


  6. Tim Berners-Lee and his team invented the HTML codes and web browsers that opened the World Wide Web up to people like us and not just computer nerds who knew computer coding languages. I am sure the whole team would enjoy a good smooch 🙂

    The internet has become a most useful tool. But it also killed off some of the kinky culture underground communities, that just could not exist, in this world of easily available information. Every sword has two edges


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    1. Thank you for sharing this information, Prefectdt! I would never have known about kinky underground communities as I wasn’t quite of age yet. But I completely agree with your sentiment… every sword DOES have two edges 🙂 XOXO

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  7. I heard somewhere that some politician invented the internet. 😋

    I am thankful for technology and also thankful for your wonderful site Nora!

    On your inaugural spanking, sounds like great story material to me. I would enjoy reading it.

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  8. I was online when the internet first really took off. I was in the Kink and BDSM Yahoo! chats, participating in Kinkfo, Fetlife and even CollarMe. Lol. I miss those wild, honest and carefree days of exploration. It was a much more simpler and easier time back then.

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    1. Thank you for sharing, Storm! I began exploring the Spanko chatroom in the early 2000’s…that was my first experience with actually talking to others who shared my kink. That was such a wild and exciting time! XOXO

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    1. Thank you, Simon! I was raised in a home where sex was discussed openly and in a positive way. We didn’t talk about kink, but I guess I always felt confident to pursue my sexual desires. I am sorry to hear that you experienced guilt around it. Thank you for reading! And a Merry Christmas to you too!


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