Life update- Part 2

Hello, my friends!

I cannot tell you how much it meant to me that so many of you read my Life Update- Part 1 post.  There was so much traffic to my page yesterday that WordPress sent me a message to check things out.  I immediately logged in to make sure I hadn’t uploaded a nude pic of myself or something…thankfully, I hadn’t 😊.  So I want to start this post by just telling all of you how grateful I am for your readership.  Blogging about my naughty adventures has been an incredibly rewarding experience for me.  Not only do I have a space where it is totally okay to talk about over-the-knee spankings and early morning sex adventures with Daddy, but I have found a community of kink-friendly people who also love to read and write and keep life in the bedroom sizzlin’ hot. 

So, where was I?  Oh, that’s right… I promised to talk about my sexual submission to Sir.  Patience, my kinky friends.  Let me back up and just write a bit more about the positive changes in my life.

One of the most important things to mention is that I gave alcohol the boot.  To be honest, I don’t miss it.  It was really hard at first, but now…alcohol is not a part of my life anymore.  This change has really helped me heal from my grief because I finally had to experience the pain in a sober state…and face it head on. Alcohol enabled me to numb my difficult feelings for many years…but it didn’t allow me to heal.  Now, I have faced many of the anniversaries and birthdays that used to send me into an emotional tailspin…and my grief is softer.  Don’t get me wrong.  The losses I have suffered still hurt, but I have accepted them now.  Giving up the booze was key to this process.

I am also learning to love myself again.  That has been a difficult road for me and like many, I’ve struggled with insecurities and a bit of self-loathing.  I have done lots of things in my life that I regret (including cheating on Daddy early in our marriage).  But I’ve done a lot of work on myself this last year and I can tell you that I am calmer, more patient, and more in touch and in control of my own emotions.  I am also learning to love my body again.  This may sound strange…but the other evening, while Daddy was out of town, I took my lighted magnifier mirror and I studied myself…down there!  I looked at my folds, the delicate skin around my clitoris, the rosebud of my anus…and while these thoughts that I am about to share were rather foreign to me… I came to the realization that my lady bits are beautiful and not something to be ashamed of.  I mean, I’m not going to walk down the street flashing my vagina to just anyone… but I am proud of how I look.  I am beautiful.  I’m imperfect, but I am beautiful.

I cannot ignore the two biggest influences on my journey this year.  I know you’ve heard a lot about Daddy and my unconditional love for that man.  We have been through so much together and I know that he will always have my back, no matter what happens.  He is my best friend, the person that I want to tell things first to, and my lover.  Daddy and I have grown up together.  I’ve spent about half of my life with him and most of those years have been GREAT years.  We still laugh together, he is my home, and his presence is reassuring that no matter what happens…everything will be okay.

And there is another influence in my life.  Over this last year, Sir has become a strong force in my daily life.  He pushes me to be better and he’s introduced me to so many new things.  Some might find this silly, but Sir is in control of my reading list (my reading for pleasure list).  He assigns me all kinds of books that I would never have picked up on my own…and most of them I have loved!  He is also teaching me a lot about different genres of music as he sends me a song to listen to each week.  I listen to the song a bunch of times and research the artist/group and send him a quick write up.  He also assigns me political articles to read, and I do subsequent research and write up reports on these topics.  This is something we do about twice per month.  Sir is also in charge of my daily To-Do list and is privy to exactly what I am doing with my time and what I am accomplishing.  He makes time in his schedule for me each and every day and I can’t tell you how special that makes me feel. 

As I mentioned in my last post… Daddy got to a place where he felt comfortable enough to allow me to offer my sexual submission to Sir.  How did he get to that place?  Well, he and I talked about things A LOT. We had the difficult conversations.  And in addition to this, Sir has been amazing about adhering to every boundary that Daddy ever put in place.  Not once did Sir ever push me to do something that might hurt my marriage or put me in a bad spot with Daddy.  As you all know, Sir and I are long-distance… so I am not actually engaged in physical sex with him.  But he has slowly incorporated sexual submission into our Dynamic (with Daddy’s permission).  There are days where he denies me physical release…he forbids me to climax, though he may instruct me to edge myself multiple times.  Now, for a girl who masturbates 1-2 times per day, this kind of self-control isn’t easy!  But I know it brings Sir great pleasure to be able to exert this kind of control over me.  It’s not just that though.  Sir knows that most of the things he asks me to do bring me great joy (adhering to my To-Do list, reading his books, dressing in the clothes he selects, etc.).  I can honestly say that I don’t like sexual denial… not one little bit. Sexual denial is not fun for me, and some days it is really really hard.  But I obey him…and in that, I am truly submitting to him as it is not something I want to do. 

On occasion, Sir will instruct me to play with certain toys (visit this post if you’d like to see my toy chest) and he is a big fan of anal plugs as he sees a noticeable difference in my level of submission when I am wearing one.  But I think that Sir is most interested in my obedience to him, whether it be a sexual activity or not.  I have often written about how discipline and accountability are my greatest kinks, and I feel that Sir would say the same.  He and I are in complete agreement that regular spankings have a positive impact on my behavior, my attitude, and my mood.

So that’s about it for my life update, my kinky friends.  Daddy and I are planning a fun vacation this winter (I am hoping to incorporate something kinky into this trip…a BDSM club or something similar) and I am happy about the changing seasons.  Fall is my favorite time of year… the cooler weather, the beautiful colors, the holidays.  I am looking forward to making new memories with the special men in my life, and I plan to spend a lot of time practicing gratitude (a good place for a girl to do this is on her knees, wouldn’t you agree? 😉).

Be well, be happy, and get your kink on!




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  1. This was beautiful. You need to read the book “Loving your lady landscape” it’s incredible! I love reading about your relationships. You’re so open and the way you write is awe inspiring. I continue to date so that maybe I could find at least one relationship like your two. Speaking of which I great time tonight with Randy (the second date man) he’s a little older and wiser than I. We went to see a movie (Shang chi and the legend of the 10 rings) I’m a total marvel nerd. We had a really calm dinner before. We were discussing our hobbies the other night and get this he’s a welder who’s now expanding his horizons to woodworking and is making a paddle. Isn’t that just too perfect?!

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    1. Thank you for your continued support, Grace! I don’t want to make it sound like either of my relationships are all roses all the time, but I do feel like a very blessed girl. And girlfriend…I am swooning…a man who makes his own paddles…well, that makes me tingle in ALL the right places!!! Can’t wait to hear more 😘💋❤

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  2. All very interesting, nora. I think recognizing and appreciating your own beauty is an important factor in good sex. I wasn’t aware you had added a sexual component into your submission to Sir. Personally, I find enforced sexual denial to be a highly erotic practice… if not for too long. No need to answer if it’s TMI, but despite you not liking it even one little bit, does it make the delayed release for you any stronger or more pleasurable?

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    1. Hi Franz! That is a great question as I know for many people, sexual denial does increase the strength of their orgasms. I’ve noticed that the times it has worked this way for me, and my release has been more pleasurable after 24 hours or so of being denied, have been the times where that next orgasm was directed by Sir. I think it is all mental for me…if he denies the pleasure, I need him to give the pleasure to make it more explosive (I hope that makes sense). There have been times, especially if he becomes super busy with work, where he will just say…no climaxing until noon tomorrow. And in those cases, I really haven’t noticed any positive benefit on my next orgasm. However, being denied sexually by him does increase how submissive I feel toward him. I hope I articulated this well XOXO

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  3. Awww Nora, I love you! The complete picture tells so much more than just skating over the top of things. I know sexual release denial for you is one of the most disliked things in your world. But, and this is the interesting thing for me, you do it because you get a greater sense of submission, which satisfies you much more and on a deeper level than the quick fix of an orgasm. I admire you for that, greatly.
    I notice you said Sir sends you a song every week to listen to and absorb and learn about the artist/band and then report.
    That I find very interesting, I have a deep love of music that is possibly equal to my love of words!
    This piece was worth waiting for, thank you for ‘hurrying up’! Haha! 🤣😂💋🥰

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    1. I love that you totally understand that part of me! I was just trying to articulate this very concept to Franz and did a rather poor job of it. Yes to what you said… I get a much greater sense of submission by obeying him which is of more benefit to me than the quick release of an orgasm. I was so happy to see that someone besides myself thinks our weekly song assignment is cool. I LOVE connecting with Sir in this way and he is very passionate about music. He has greatly expanded my exposure to various genres, and music that is both current and older. Last week, he assigned me “California Stars” by Wilco which ended up being a new favorite of mine, and this week he assigned “Rosebud” by U.S. Girls. He was very pleased with me when I found an explanation for the lyrics of “Rosebud”, shared by the artist, as he had wondered what they lyrics meant. I was beaming under his praise for hours. LOL. I’m such a dork. Thank you for your readership, my sexy friend! I was very glad to “hurry up” this post just for you 😉

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      1. Well, in the interests of sharing new music, feel free to check out my latest post and click on the video. This boy can sing like a bird, his voice goes from the deepest canyon of sound to whistle tone and he can hit every octave in between effortlessly! Truly astounding!
        I might just check out Wilco and U.S. Girls too, I have never heard of either!
        Much love my sexy gorgeous friend! xxx

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  4. Beautiful update, Nora, and thank you for doing so. Also for your honesty about the alcohol. I drink, but not to drown my feelings, although the thought had crossed my mind at times. But, twice a week I do indulge in several glasses of wine, with some good food.
    Lovely that you and your Sir have advanced to sexual submission too!
    ~ Marie xox

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    1. Thank you for these supportive comments, Marie! I will share with you that I was drinking a lot more than a few glasses of wine. I had progressed to hard liquor and was drinking almost every day. I look back now in wonder… I cannot believe I let myself sink so low. But.. I have kicked that bad habit, have gotten my weight under control, and am working out regularly. Lately, I’ve been feeling fit and happy (and very submissive to Sir). I am grateful that the sun in shining on me now, because I know that life happens in cycles…and that there will be rain clouds again. Thank you for your continued readership… I really value your friendship here in our kinky community! XOXO

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      1. It makes me happy to see you happy, Nora, and know you have kicked a bad habit. I need to lose weight, but with the stress we are in, I am having major problems with my back… one day I will get back to it. I just don’t have the mental or physical capacity right now. But it always makes me happy to read about the happiness of friends 🙂 xox

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        1. You are going through so much, Marie…my heart really goes out to you. I won’t offer you any overused platitudes…just know that I sincerely wish nothing but the best for you and your family. I know the emotional stress you are under is huge. All my love XOXO

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  5. So much positivity happening for you right now! I’m very happy to hear it. Alcohol is something I can have but don’t need. To be honest in the course of a regular year, I may have 3-4 drinks. When my Queen and I go away to a resort, we drink every day—but not to oblivion. Just for fun—when we return home, we stop drinking. lol
    I’m sorry I’m not on here as much. Hopefully I’ll soon get things going more regularly

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  6. You truly have come such a long way, thank you for your honesty. I too was drowning my pain in alcohol before the ex finally moved. I drink but rarely and if I do it’s a glass of wine or a beer. It’s hard to admit how we have these crutches which end up hurting ourselves but you eloquently have shown grace through it all and have come out blooming. I have no doubt you will continue to do so under your Daddy’s love and care and Sir’s strict instruction.

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    1. Hugging you so hard right now, Storm…thank you for this! It’s been a long road with alcohol, but in the end, I realized that it just doesn’t have a place in my life. I was what you would call a functioning alcoholic…drinking way too much, drowning my emotions in the booze, but getting up the next morning and going to work. It’s just no way to live. I am SO much happier now. 2021 has been a sober year for me. And I feel so grateful to have Daddy and Sir in my life. This is a very good year for me. From what you have shared, I know you are in the process of getting back on your feet… I wish nothing but the best for you Storm! XOXO

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  7. Hi Nora. This has to be my favorite post of yours so far, so open and so emotional. Beautiful. I have an issue with alcohol, and need to break free from it. So many of my friends (and members of my family) have had their lives destroyed by this drug and others. It is insidious. Well done you for putting the cork back in the bottle. Well done you for finding strength in your submission. In the end, that is the highest goal of submission. So glad to see you are on the path.


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