Life update- Part 1

Hello, my dear readers,

I know it has been quite some time since I have updated you on the inner workings of my kinky life (and I probably deserve a good spanking for that 😊).  This entire year has been a bit of a blur.  I feel like I blinked and—poof— it’s suddenly September.  And while I haven’t been writing about my personal life as much, I promise you it is for a good reason… I’ve just been busy living a GREAT life. 

Don’t get me wrong…there are still daily stressors, misunderstandings, etc., but overall, this has been a very good year for me.  There were many times over the last few years (after dealing with infidelity, grief and loss, major life transitions, etc.) when I wondered if I would ever feel happy again.  I suffered some serious depression, treated my body poorly and drank way too much, and lived in a constant state of teary-eyed existence.  But I am so grateful to be able to tell you today that… I am happy. 

There was a moment, during the pandemic (it was summer of 2020) where I realized that I had to make a change.  I had let myself gain some weight, I wasn’t working out, and I was drinking like a fish.  And I realized that if I kept going on like I was, that I was just slowly killing myself.  At that time, I made a huge change to my diet, and I tried to get my drinking under control.  I started working out regularly again and it felt great.  It also boosted my mood.  I started working through some very helpful self-help books (the best was The Warrior Heart Practice).

Some of the hurts began to heal between Daddy and me.  Some of the healing happened because he started to work on himself and explore his own feelings around his infidelity, and part of the healing came from me making positive changes in my own life.  But we did the hard work and we managed to stick it out.  And I can honestly tell you… five years after his affair, our marriage is better than ever.

Daddy and I have more honest conversations now.  We are able to say the hard things to each other and talk about what our actual wants/needs are without being afraid.  After years of Daddy and I trying to incorporate D/s and DD into our lives, we were both able to see how Daddy is just not equipped to give that to me (at least, not at this point in our lives).  As you all know, that led to Daddy and I opening up our marriage a bit, and I met my Sir in December of 2020. 

A lot of positive things have happened since I met Sir.  Most importantly, I am Sir’s submissive, and Sir is giving me an incredible D/s experience.  Sir and I may be long-distance, but he works very hard to make this a real and vivid experience for both of us, and he succeeds.  I submit to him in a variety of ways, and in turn, he exerts much control over my daily activities.  Sir is consistent, he continuously gives me new and unexpected experiences, and he does not allow me to top from the bottom.  He is also very strict with me and holds high expectations around what I do with myself.  He, and this experience, have changed me in so many positive ways.

And those changes have bled over into my marriage.  I am more relaxed, and I am softer toward Daddy.  I am much more in control of my temper, and more aware of my critical nature.  It has also helped me to forgive Daddy of the past and allow myself to heal from those hurts.  My husband has been incredibly generous in allowing me to submit to Sir, and in allowing my dynamic with him to grow.  While our D/s was pretty constricted at first, my husband has grown comfortable enough to allow me to explore the sexual side of submission with Sir (which I will write about in Part 2 of this update).

So…that’s it for now, but I promise to write the rest of this update tomorrow.  I know, I know…just when I get to the kinky stuff….

XOXO,

nora 

       

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  1. This is really beautiful. It’s raw and open and vulnerable and relatable. The things that are relatable are things that I wouldn’t wish upon my worst enemy infidelity, grief, and feeling out of control with your health. I’m in absolute awe of you, the strength that it takes to look your husband in the eyes and say “I forgive you” and truly mean it is a strength I don’t have. I’m so happy that you’re finding fulfillment and pleasure and joy in your relationship with Sir. Your life seems to be going so well and I’m so happy about it. I wish you the utmost happiness through all that life brings.

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    1. Thank you for this, Grace…you are such a warm and supportive person. I am grateful to have such a strong, vibrant, sexy friend here in blogosphere. Thank you for being you, girl❤😘💋

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  2. I guess because I’m relatively new to your blog, I wasn’t aware of how much you’ve gone through to get to this great place today. I’m impressed by and happy for you. You deserve all that is good in life, my friend. ❤

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    1. Smiles at you. Thank you, Franz. I really appreciate your kind words and the interactions we have shared here in this space (and via email). I really value your readership and your friendship ❤

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  3. You are so strong, and like Grace above says, it takes a huge amount of strength to take control of your health, and I can relate to that so much. Iv been depressed for a while also and its been wreaking havoc on my body, and since I also stopped the unhealthy ways of dealing with my depression(I smoked way too many cigarettes) my body has ballooned up and now whenever I start a work out routine, I end up stopping after a week or so.

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    1. That is a hard place to be, abichica. Depression is such an awful experience. Please know that as a fellow human being, I am here…cheering for you…and hoping you find your way back soon. You can do this, and you can take back control. Thank you for sharing this with me, and thank you for your readership. XOXO

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  4. That’s wonderful nora, you deserve to be happy! Lovely to hear.
    It is hard to get past infidelity but it is a mark of special marriages when it is achieved. Much love!

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    1. Thank you, merksmith! Yes, I couldn’t agree more. It was hard to get past, and I’m sure that painful feelings will still rear their ugly head from time to time, but it really feels like it is behind us now. And we are so much stronger and more self-aware as individuals, and as a couple. Thank you very much for your readership, my friend! XOXO

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  5. This touched me on so many levels, it makes my heart feel good to know you have found your happy. It’s a hard thing to find in the first place but even harder to keep and maintain. Your personal journey has been a very rocky road full of the kind of pain that would normally tear a couple apart. You didn’t allow it to. It is a testament to you that your heart is big enough and you are wise enough to see that there was still something worth fighting for. Inside all of that, you also fought for yourself too and changed the things that were damaging you. Much respect. You truly are the epitome of warrior heart! You have given me pause for thought Nora. On a different note, why you stop at the naughty bit woman?? 😤🤪💋💖💖💖

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    1. Oh, Gemma…thank you for these beautiful words, my fellow Warrior Princess! You have survived so many challenges yourself…so these words mean even more to me coming from you. You have such a beautiful heart, Gem. And a deliciously WICKED mind!!! If I haven’t told you lately, let me remind you that you are my favorite smut writer!!! And I promise to get to the naughty bits today!!! XOXO

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  6. If anyone deserves happiness it is you, you have been through so much and fought hard to get through it all. You’ve done it with grace and honesty. You give me hope for the next chapter in my life and teach me to be patient that it’ll happen when the time is right. I wish you continued bliss in both relationships and continued growth as well, sending big hugs!!!

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