More kinky reading notes- Real Service cont.

Hello, my kinky friends!

I haven’t written about Sir in some time, but I wanted to share that our D/s Dynamic is alive and well.  I am writing this post in service to him this evening.  You see, when Daddy is working out of town during the week (which is dreadfully hard for me… I miss you, Daddy ❤ ), Sir often exerts further control over my world.  While he typically only dominates me during the day, though my Rules are in place 24/7, he will often give additional directives if I am on my own for the evening.  Tonight, he gave me a bedtime, assigned me a documentary to watch, and requested that I do some reading and note taking.

I have to admit, I was embarrassed when Sir asked me today if I had finished reading Real Service.  I had forgotten all about the book (I had tucked it out of sight a few weeks ago when we had family stay over).  Sir wasn’t upset with me over this, but he did assign me some evening reading.  In obedience to him, I am sharing my notes with all of you.

I should note that this book is written toward the Master/slave dynamic.  On occasion the authors use the terms Dominant, submissive, and s-types.  You will note that I often write my notes as “Doms” and “submissives” as this is what is most relevant to my dynamic.  But should you happen to pick up this book, I wanted you all to be aware that is geared toward service slaves. 

I hope you enjoy these notes!  This has been a GREAT learning experience for me.

XOXO,

nora 

Chapter 12- Gender and Service

This chapter provides a thoughtful discussion of traditional gender roles, how these might be problematic depending on your dynamic, and how Masters might challenge their submissives to operate outside of their comfort zone. I love the idea of male submissives learning to give pedicures and foot massages!  And, no reason why a female submissive can’t wash and gas up your vehicle 😊

Chapter 13-Qualities of a Good Master

This chapter is written toward new Doms seeking to cultivate qualities of leadership AND toward submissives who wonder what they should look for in a Dominant.  I LOVED this chapter.  It made me happy to think of my Sir as I read this chapter and think check, check, check… as my Sir is an incredibly thoughtful and supportive leader in our Dynamic.  While this chapter discusses a lot of qualities of an effective Dominant or Master, I will just sum up the five qualities that I see as most important.

Impeccable honor– he lives by a high set of standards, he is truthful, he is someone that others look up to, and he recognizes his own flaws and seeks self-improvement.

Sound Judgement– his judgement is sound.  He makes better choices than most.  He is not paralyzed by unpleasant or difficult decisions.  He can articulate good reasons for the decisions he makes or imposes on others.   

Responsibility– he takes responsibility for his words and actions, thinking both short-term and long-term.

Steady– he lives his life in good order and avoids drama.  He does not invite turmoil into his life. He controls his temper and is aware of his emotions. 

Reliable– he is consistent.  If he says he will do something, you can trust that he will make every effort to do so.   

 

Chapter 14- Qualities of a Good Servant

There was a thoughtful discussion about submissives presented at the beginning of this chapter.  I like how the authors dispelled the myth that submissives aren’t or can’t become mature, self-disciplined adults capable of great achievements.  The following qualities are presented as ones helpful for those in service to a Dom or Master.  Like the previous chapter, I will just summarize the five that I see as most important.

Being helpful– she enjoys being helpful and useful to other people.  She desires to make their lives easier through her service.

Motivated to do well– she takes pride in her work and strives to do a good job, regardless of the task.

Balanced– while she does take time for self-care, she would rather be doing something (working) than sitting around doing nothing.  She is motivated to work and to please. 

Obedient– she has a sense of honor and will strive to do the right thing, even if it is unpleasant for her.  She obeys, not out of fear, but out of commitment. 

Open communication– she can clearly and respectfully communicate any difficulties and concerns regarding her Dom’s orders. 

PS…would love to hear your thoughts! XOXO