Mantras & Self-growth

Hello, my kinky friends~

Some time ago, I had a very special mantra that was written for me by special friends.  When they went out of my life, I tossed the mantra out too (in this case, the baby did need to be thrown out with the bath water).  Eight months later, I find myself ready for a new mantra.  Only this time, I want to write it myself. 

So, what exactly is a mantra?  According to Mantras Made Easy (yes, I bought a book on Mantras… I am such a book nerd😊), mantras are “words, syllables, or phrases you repeat to help you connect and feel the energy within you and around you”.  Mantras are intended to provide you support, inspiration, and motivation.  A mantra may fill you with a peaceful feeling or provide you with a burst of energy. 

One thing I learned from this easy read was that what makes a mantra effective is not so much the words themselves (though words ARE very powerful) but the relationship one develops to the mantra.  To build a relationship with my mantra, I need to practice saying it every day.  I might consider the tone I use, my use of pauses, voice inflections, and my use of energy.  The mantra will only be effective IF I believe in what I am saying.

It is also recommended that mantras be written in present tense.  So…avoid “I will be…” and state, “I am” to indicate you are already in this state of being. Sherianna Boyle, author of Mantras Made Easy, also warns of being too “flowery” with use of language or being too concerned with rhyming.  She recommends focusing on communicating with one’s subconscious mind and the universe instead. The rest of this book is chalk full of mantras, organized into various categories.  These categories include mantras for: happiness, overcoming fear and anxiety, love, forgiveness and acceptance, healing, protection, wealth and prosperity, peace, and new beginnings.  There is also a chapter on sacred mantras. 

So…what I want to focus on is thinking before I speak.  Lately, I have realized that I can be an overly critical person (stop rolling your eyes, Daddy!).  I have never really thought of myself this way so I will be honest, when I realized it… it hurt me deeply.  The way I have always thought of it before was that I speak what I know to be true.  Well, I guess it is good that I don’t blurt out things that I am not feeling… but needing to always say what I am thinking, true or not, is NOT a good communication behavior. 

After doing a quick Google search on “thinking before you speak”, an image popped up.  There is a clever acronym for “Think”.

I’ve always thought…well, it if is true…I can go ahead and say it.  But some of these other ideas really gave me pause.  Is it helpful?  Is it inspiring?  Is it necessary?  Is it kind?  And to be honest…often, the answers to these questions are a big fat NO.  I genuinely want to correct this in myself.  I think it will be very helpful in my marriage, and I think it will be beneficial in my submission to Sir.  Also, in general… I think this is a good area of self-growth for me to focus on.   

The book offers a few different mantras that align with my goal.

1.  I am mindful of my tone, speech, and actions.

2. I have released all negative patterns, conditions, and restrictions on love.

3. I have the energy and strength to create new behaviors and patterns.

4. My heart is beating with peace and love.

5. My breath is deep, my eyes are soft, I am at peace.

None of these are exactly right, but numbers 1,4, 5 are my favorite.  Okay, here goes my attempt at writing my own mantras.

1. My breath is deep, my words are soft, my heart is full of submission.

2. I am mindful of my tone, my words, and my intent. 

What do you think?  I am totally open to suggestions…do you have any?  And…would you like me to list a mantra for you from the book (just choose from one of the categories listed above) and I will respond to you in the comments.

Thank you for reading my not-so-kinky post, my friends.  This is me…striving to do better.

XOXO,

nora