Hello, my kinky readers,
I am guessing that most of you have read my most recent blog post (He popped my cherry!) by now. If not, you will learn that I recently received an unsolicited “dick pic” for the very first time. While I know that some people get a little sensitive around these sorts of things, I responded by setting some boundaries with this friend, having a good laugh about it, and researching funny penis euphemisms (this one is for you kdaddy…the penis, otherwise known as the one-eyed wonder worm). In any case, my dear friend, Franz and I were discussing this and it seemed like a good area of academic study…and come on…who doesn’t want to know more about why people send dick pics?
After just a bit of preliminary research, I found that the dick pic is known in academia as cyberflashing. The term “cyberflashing” is more descriptive and includes any unsolicited body part pictures (dicks, vajayjays, boobies, naughty holes, etc.). I would love to understand more about the experience of cyberflashing. What motivates people to do it? What does it feel like to the person doing the flashing? To explore this, I have set up an ANONYMOUS survey on the survey monkey platform (I have set this up so that the platform will NOT collect your username, email, or IP address).
If you have ever engaged in cyberflashing (this survey is NOT only for those with a meat stick between their legs), and sent out a naughty picture that you probably shouldn’t have, please consider participating in this five question, anonymous survey. Assuming that I get any responses, I will write a follow up piece to discuss the results.
Click here: Naughty Nora’s Cyberflashing Survey
This is all in the name of kinky science, my friends! Hope you participate.
XOXO,
nora
I would also love to hear from any of you in the comments, as well. Don’t feel like you have to take the survey to participate in this post. XOXO ~ nora
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In my experience, I cannot recall any cybers from me that wasn’t mutually agreed upon. I am
Not shy….I have sent the whole ‘ shebang’ a few times to different recipients
I.e before during after…… no point sending half an idea …. am I right???? I have received some glorious action cybers , stills through to vids…… it is a very big trust issue, hand on heart I won’t reshare, that’s just plain wrong.
It’s not about size of the goods I worry about as I understand all shapes and sizes exist. Same goes for the beautiful female flesh goblets….. amazing array out there. One size doesn’t fit all springs to mind 🤔🤔😉😉
It’s the intimacy of the other person that makes it an amazing experience. That’s main difference to adult videos amd pics…. I hate the ‘P’ word it sounds filthy….to me anyway….
We all
Form pics and sounds of who the respondents are, as no ‘real images’ are available, however different if able to view them, however, different opinions formed when that’s the case.
In reality, never had a cyber sent to me unsolicited….
It’s more a turn one when she says ‘I fantazise about you’…..
I used to write some potent material, lost my muse and struggled ever since.
🤗🤗😘
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Thank you for sharing, sentinel! You do have me curious though….what sort of “potent material” did you used to write? I would love to read your work 🙂
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I deleted my page, however it was very full on and descriptive graphic with graphic pics of things dripping and dangling and creamy openings….. etc 😘😘
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Blushing, imagining it….😘
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Very much the same as above, safe sane and consensual and make sure you create trust and consent before you send ANYTHING to another person…We ALL deserve our safety so just make sure you are never sending any deeply personal information…on the other hand how much more personal can you get than sending a willing recipient your hard cock pic etc
😉😎🤔🤩🍾💦🍒🍌🍑
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Agreed, Big K! It doesn’t get much more personal than that. The trust thing would be hard for me. In the moment, you may feel very trusting of that person…but who knows what they might do with the picture after the relationship has ended…… I suppose it is always best to not have your face showing in the picture.
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Helps if they call you Daddy, BIG K, keep the real names out of it 😉, plus, depends on the angle you shoot your photos from to make it how should I say….. more appealing 😎😉😉 to those that request it.
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LOL…pseudonyms do help!
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So okay Sentinel and okay Nora I will keep my smut talk cleaner 😉🍾💦…Don’t wanna walk the plank with my own personal “Captain Jack Sparrow” on display 😎. Enjoying the discussion though and everyone’s feedback
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LOL….imagining Big K walking the plank with his Jack Sparrow on display 🙂
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Ahem…PROUDLY on display young lady
😎🍾💦
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Laughing. Of course…PROUDLY on display, as you should be 🙂
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Yo sí lo hecho alguna vez y no estoy orgulloso de ello.
Ahora prefiero compartir de una manera velada y a petición de la otra parte.
Y mi esposa tampoco es muy partidaria.
El respeto y consenso mutuo siempre deben ir por delante.
Por lo demás el mundo es nuestro 🤓
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I think we all do these silly things sometimes, my friend. I am guessing my husband would NOT be on board with me doing this either. I can certainly understand your wife’s preference.
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I haven’t sent anyone anything like that. In my earlier days of cyber-kinkery, I would sometimes send unsolicited messages to women who didn’t know me that, in hindsight, were a bit TMI. I went with the idea that, because of the shared interest they showed in my kink, they would be interested in some stranger’s story. In some cases, it was well received, in others, it was ignored. I eventually realized that many women were being driven away from sex and kink sites, or greatly reducing their public participation, because of all the unwanted stuff they got from strangers. Dick pics are probably the most unwanted for these women. My motivation was that I had no outlet for sharing my kink in real life, and online offered an exciting new opportunity. Though I always tried to be polite about it, I was too eager and self-absorbed to consider that my target might not want to be a target. Not too much more complicated than that.
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I imagine that eagerness definitely plays a role! What are your thoughts about validation being a motivating factor?
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If I’m understanding your question, nora, I think having my kinky thoughts and feelings validated was a minor factor. When I discovered the internet, I quickly learned that some kinksters were like me and many were not. I knew who I was, and I accepted my kink as valid. It was great to find someone who shared my feelings, and I could get that validation from their open participation in online forums and such. The times I was inspired to send them my personal thoughts, I had already determined that we were on the same page kink-wise. Another motivation that I didn’t indulge in was shock factor, where the excitement is sending something the reader may not be at all prepared for, or will be moved by in ways that are not so positive. As a spanko, there’s the fantasy of exposure to a vanilla or unwilling witness I find appealing. That may be the motivation for a variety of unsolicited offerings.
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Thank you for this thoughtful response, Franz! When I was putting myself into this role and trying to guess what the motivation might be, I had wondered if validation might play a role. I know as a woman, I have definitely been motivated by validation seeking in the past…dressing in certain ways to enhance my looks, things like that. I wanted to let you know that I have already had 6 responders to the survey! I am excited to put the results together.
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Thank you, nora. I think men (or women) are generally more appreciative when it comes to material received from women, unsolicited or not. 🙂
I was wondering how many of your readers would qualify to answer your survey. That’s great you’ve gotten a substantial response, and the results should be educational. I look forward to seeing your evaluations.
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I think I will leave it open throughout the weekend and then write up the results. Smiles. I don’t know why this is so darn interesting to me 🙂
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I have never cyber flashed. It puzzles me, I just can’t see the gratification of sending unsolicited photos of bits of yourself to someone who probably does not want to see them. If they are solicited for, though, that is a whole other kettle of eels
Prefectdt
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I have never engaged in the practice either, my friend, though I know plenty of people in my real life who have. I had a great discussion with one of my girlfriends the other night who loves to do this sort of thing (I mentioned her in my first post, she used to frequently send me pictures of her breasts). For her, it is the shock and awe factor…she has nice boobs, and she likes to show them off. LOL….sometimes I feel much older than my 40+ years……
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But I think that academic studies don’t pay much attention to research like yours, which motivates people to do exciting and naughty things, Nora 🙂
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I hope you will participate, my friend!😘
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I went to take the survey and realized I had never sent such a pic to anyone other than my wife. We were together long before cell phones and computers. Now we send nudes to each other regularly, her sending more than me, but they would not fall into the category of unsolicited. In fact, I often send her a text telling her what I want a picture of. She obliges. There is a bit of a thrill sending a pic to someone, I get the desire to do so, but to me sending a pic to someone who did not ask for it seems odd. We all want to be wanted and desired. If we’re honest, most of these are sent then we’re horny. We (especially men) do dumb shit when we’re horny…
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Thank you for this thoughtful reply, my friend! I am not sure why Daddy and I never got into the habit of sending each other nudes. I am guessing it has a lot to do with both of our professions, and living in a very small town, and the fear of somehow…being discovered. I have sent him a few photos of myself in lingerie before…but never a fully nude photo showing body parts. And… I think you make an excellent point… men (and women sometimes) do dumb shit when they are horny….. LOL
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I have never sent any unsolicited pics to anyone… am far to shy to do that 😉
~ Marie xox
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You and me both, Marie! Much love XOXO
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I would love to see the results of naughty nora’s survey!
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Hi Thomas! I am leaving the survey open for the weekend and will write up the results next week 🙂
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Smiles. I will say that I think it would be interesting if the survey included solicited texts as well as unsolicited ones. Both can be exciting, I believe. Thank you for coming up with this wonderful study and enacting it. How are you doing today?
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I am doing well, Thomas…how are you?
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I should have specified, while I would love to see the results of the whole survey, I would also love to see the results just of naughty nora’s personal response. While I do realize from the above that she has not quite sent unsolicited exposed photos, I do suspect that it ‘takes one to know one’ in terms of the questions she asked in this survey.
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LOL… I have never done anything like this, Thomas….never sent unsolicited photos (or solicited ones, for that matter). I created the questions based on my experience as an interpretive phenomenological analysis researcher 🙂
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🙂
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Never, EVER, sent even a glimpse of your bare bottom to a man over the demon Internet?!
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NO! That is very naughty, Thomas… you are so bad with boundaries…..
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I’m so waiting for the analysis. : )
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Smiles. Patience, my friend! I am traveling and just don’t have time to get to it right now. Soon, I promise! XOXO
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But I’m impatient! 🙂
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And does that get you anywhere? Smiles at you.
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Hmmmn. I like your smile.
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~ blows you a kiss
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Does it seem to me or this photo piqued your interest and imagination?
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She is quite lovely!
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