A Trial Run (with a Dom!) #NSFW, 18+

Hello, my naughty friends!

I do hope that this post finds you well, whichever part of the world you hail from.  I know that Covid is ramping up again in various places, so sending you and your loved ones lots of love and positive thoughts during these scary/frustrating/unprecedented times. 

Things are going FANTASTIC here! I wanted to provide you all a little update on Mr. Intriguing (my potential Dom) 😊

As you may remember, when Mr. Intriguing returned from his vacation our email correspondence really began to ramp up.  He pretty much checks off all my boxes as a potential Dom…married (and deeply committed to his wife AND to making sure my marriage remains healthy and intact), ridiculously intelligent (his brain is much quicker than mine…he outsmarts me easily), older & wiser than myself, experienced as a disciplinarian, focused on discipline and accountability thru spanking, and he supports my blogging addiction (though I do have get approval of any blog post that discusses our dynamic prior to posting…and this makes me pout!).

Once it was clear that Mr. Intriguing and I were well matched as Dom and submissive, it was time to talk to Daddy about all of this crazy stuff again.  I had already shared a lot about Mr. Intriguing with him, but Daddy and I sat down and had a long heart to heart.  We talked about what this would mean for our marriage, trust, boundaries, exit strategies (in the event that either of us became deeply unhappy with this situation), how to measure if my dynamic was successful (and what that even means), and gave each other a lot of reaffirming messages of love and support.  Daddy had been reading Mr. Intriguing and I’s correspondence every few days, so he had a pretty good idea of where things stood.  And then Daddy told me…”you have my permission to engage in a one-week trial, baby girl.  Let’s see if this works for us”.

Hot damn, this was actually happening!  I was thrilled but also very nervous.  I emailed Mr. Intriguing the good news (and he was very happy to hear this!) and our journey began.

So…a trial run with Mr. Intriguing…whom I now call Sir 😊 

Sir invited me to correspond with him via instant messenger in the mornings.  We face a three-hour time difference, so this works well for both our schedules.  Thankfully, Sir types extremely fast (no turtle typing here 😊), as do I, and we began to have thrilling conversations about what we both wanted from this dynamic.  One thing we were both interested in was Sir turning my mind in directions he saw fit.  From the start, he had complemented my intelligence…but he was itching to have his influence….

Together, we agreed that Sir would give me assignments and provide a due date for these assignment.  This would include me reading an article or listening to a pod cast of his choosing and providing a written discussion in response to the article (and my subsequent research on the topic).  We would then discuss the topic and he would further educate me in this area if necessary.  If you are curious, some of the things he had me learning about were the polar vortex, more about our sitting President, and an article about cancel culture.  He would also send me a song assignment on Thursdays.  This entails me listening to a song of his choosing and writing about my response to the music.  I would also learn about the artist/band and basically, expand my exposure to the arts (as he sees fit 😊).     

He also suggested a variety of protocols meant to reinforce my submissive status to him.

For example… I would no longer be “Nora”, with a capitalized “N”.  I believe this is a pretty common practice in the world of D/s.  I would now be “nora” to remind me that I am the “little s” in Sir and I’s D/s dynamic.  Also, when I discuss discipline, spanking, or his authority… I am to capitalize those words to again, reinforce my submissive status to him.  So, for example…if we are discussing my behavior, and I have acted in way that requires his Discipline or a Spanking…I am to capitalize those words as a reminder to me that he has Authority over me.  I must tell you…as a writer, it gives me a little thrill to do this for him.  

Sir also let me know that I would be responsible for converting our on-line meeting times to HIS time zone.  He sent me the following email…and his subtle dominance here had a great effect on me….

“Nora,

One small point — if I say a time, such as 3:00pm, as I am in the role as Dominant, you should always take that as My time, and convert it to your time in your mind. I think this makes sense given our roles. Please let me know if you have any disagreement with this.

Be a good girl.

Sir” 

Sir also set a few ground rules for me regarding sleep hygiene and safety.  If I break any of his Rules, I am to self-report immediately. 

And ultimately…there was one thing that we have in common that makes this sort of arrangement appealing to us both….

Spanking, as a result of misbehavior.

Sir proposed many ideas that first week with regard to our dynamic but what sticks out the most was his proposal of incorporating what he calls, “Directed Spankings”.  Now, you will remember that Sir and I do not meet in person…our dynamic is strictly on-line.  As a girl who gets spankings from her husband in person, I wasn’t sure a “Directed Spanking” would be all that effective for me.  Boy oh boy was I wrong!  Incorporating one of Daddy’s suggestions, Sir decided that the first “Directed Spanking” he would give me would be in response to a recently missed deadline for school.  He was determined to change my behavior and set me on the correct path.

I will share with you that I was quite nervous about all of this.  My tummy was filled with butterflies that day, trying to imagine what this would be like.  Sir had sent me an email instructing me to be prepared with the leather paddle, the strap, and the wooden paddle with holes in it.  I was to “meet” him in my husband and I’s guest bedroom, as there is a mirror there that faces the bed.  My Spanking would take place via instant messenger (no video or anything…just typing in real time).  I sent Sir a picture of the implements so that he knew I had obeyed him and brought the items he requested, and I expressed to him that I was very nervous.

Sir wrote, “Good girl for being prepared as Directed.  As I expect that you will soon have a genuinely stinging, and sore bottom, young lady, it makes sense for you to be rather nervous.  Please pull down your pants and panties to your knees and lie down on the bed for a moment while we talk”.

What happened next was one of the most effective lectures of my life!  Sir sure knows how to give a good scolding.  Sir began by telling me what a good girl he believes me to be.  He listed off many of my great qualities and reassured me that he thought very highly of me.  He then began to discuss my transgression (missing a school deadline) …my misbehavior, giving me a stinging lecture on meeting my commitments and what this all meant in the larger scheme of things…and then, it was time for my Spanking.  He instructed me to pick up the paddle…

I can’t give away all the good stuff right off the bat…more next time!

XOXO,

nora