Hello, my kinky friends,
If you have been following my journey, you know that I have been keeping busy Dom shopping (as well as fulfilling my duties to Daddy, of course)! Yes, you heard me right. Naughty nora is scouring the web in search of an on-line Dominant willing to help her explore her submission. After a long talk about needs versus wants, Daddy agreed that it was essential to my well-being to experience a D/s dynamic with an experienced Dom. The fact that he trusts me and loves me enough to want this for me…continues to blow my mind. I love you, Daddy!
In one of my previous posts, I relayed some of my experiences with various Doms that I’ve met on my journey so far. Out of respect, I am choosing not to share some of the crazier, odd balls stories…but believe me, there are some. There were also some total poser Doms, like the one guy who told me that I was a “bad sub” because I very politely told him that I wasn’t interested (rolling my eyes…thank goodness for the “delete” button). But generally, my experiences in seeking a Dom have been very positive and I “met” some very nice people.
You may remember from a few posts back that I met someone in a spanking chatroom who really piqued my interest. He was smart, courteous, funny, and demonstrated an excellent understanding of the English language (yes, this really is a thing for me!). But, right after we connected…he was off on a planned vacation with his family. While he was away, I found myself missing his emails. I am going to start referring to him as Mr. Intriguing.
Well, Mr. Intriguing is back from vacation and our email correspondence has really taken off. I am also discovering that he is educated, well-read, successful in his career, a family man, loves dogs, and has a very strong interest in spanking as discipline. Visualize for just a moment the sound of boxes being checked off a list….check, check, check, check, check….. 😊
But, I am starting to wonder if he is dominant “enough”. I’m not even sure what that means yet, but… I know that I want a dynamic with someone who is firm with me, someone who won’t let me talk circles around him. While it is important to me that he is caring and affectionate, I also want someone who will be strict with me and push me to do better. With this in mind, I began asking him questions about what he wanted from a potential on-line dynamic. This led to a very stimulating conversation where he revealed to me that being a disciplinarian to an intelligent woman made him feel very powerful. POWERFUL. How yummy is that!?!?!
And, in another email he wrote the following:
“One thing that I am considering asking of you is for you to read one article or blog post that I select for you every other day. I would look for pieces that I feel have some insight into something important in the world. Yes, there would be times when this is proselytizing some political views of mine, but perhaps you might benefit from it. I would expect you to offer some comments upon the pieces. Do you feel like I am skipping ahead, being presumptuous to raise this thought so early in our acquaintanceship? (I have not yet stepped forward to a stage of prescribing some consequence to hold you accountable.) But perhaps this would be a step towards us knowing each other better. I would like you to consider this, nora.”
Well, hot damn!
Okay, I know what some of you are thinking… that this doesn’t sound very sexy… But for this girl, this is SEXY as hell! He wants to give me assignments AND he mentioned the words “consequences” and “accountability”. Please keep in mind that I have shared with him that I am looking for a dynamic without a focus on sexual training, or anything in the sex category (which probably greatly reduced the appeal of this dynamic on his end). What I am looking for is someone who will hold me accountable to bettering myself…and on his own, he presented me with this idea! Oh yes… I am very intrigued, Mr. Intriguing… very intrigued, indeed.
Well, I discussed the idea with Daddy and he is on board with giving this a trial run…and so I have written back that yes… I very much like the idea of being given reading/writing assignments of his choosing, and that yes, we should discuss consequences as well….
I am very much looking forward to that particular discussion!