Adventures in Dom-Seeking

Hello, my kinky readers!

I thought I’d write a little update this morning to keep you abreast (don’t you just love that word!?!) of my naughty activities.  If you’ve been following along, you know that Daddy and I had a long talk and that he has given me permission to seek out an on-line Dominant.  This would be a person interested in providing some of the D/s experiences that I have been craving.

So….many of you suggested FetLife.  I got about as far as the second signup page when I discovered that it required a phone number to create a profile.  Nope!  That is NOT going to happen.  It’s pretty hard to remain anonymous when your naughty moniker is associated with your actual phone number (yes, I realize that FetLife isn’t going to just give my number out freely, but there is always the possibility of hacking, etc.).  Time to explore other options.

I remembered a spanking chatroom that I had visited YEARS ago…way back when Daddy and I were first dating.  Let’s see if that is still around.  It is!  And, it is still free to use the chatroom feature.  Time to put on my big girl panties, create a profile, and put myself out there…

And, I did!  And….it was HUGELY disappointing, at first.  The first time I went into the chatroom, heart on my sleeve, ready to put myself out there, I realized…most of the people in the chatroom were there for spanking fantasy and/or role play.  Now, Daddy spanks me in real life…so, this really isn’t the experience I am seeking.  I am looking for a Dominant! I recognized a few poser-Doms right off the bat.  I chatted with a few people (and was bombarded by requests by a ton of others) and then, feeling like this was a total loss, decided to check the names of present users one last time before leaving.

There was a new name there that was intriguing to me.  It was understated and not silly (like my own username, “naughtiest nora” 😊).  I decided to reach out.  I wrote a simple, “Hello, are you free to chat?”.  Soon after, he responded.  I found myself excited… he wrote with correct spelling/grammar and proper punctuation (this had NOT been my experience with others that day).  We began to chat, nothing too serious.  Unfortunately, he had to go shortly after.  I shared with him that I was enjoying our conversation and that I had a blog if he cared to take a look…and then, he was gone.

Later that day, an email arrived in my inbox.  It read,

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“Nora,

We met earlier today at [Name of Chat Room]. It was lovely to “meet” you. I’ve looked at some of the pages on your blog, and you’re obviously immersed in the subject of spanking in a remarkably intense way. There is so much there.

One thing — I realize that I gave the name I use in the chat room, [his on-line chat name] but that’s not my actual name. I once had someone track me down in my real life and create some havoc, and I quit using my name and only returned sometime later, with a new nickname. But my real name is [his real name]. I hope you are not offended by this practice.

Reading a description of your weekly Maintenance Spanking was very powerful. From your blog, it sounds like you and your husband have found a very intense dynamic around discipline, although from your remarks this morning, I perceive that there are still some gaps. Where I tend to place myself mentally is in the role of the disciplinarian. 

Your blog is fascinating.

Thank you for reaching out, and I hope we might talk again before too long.

Signed,

His Real Name”

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When I read his email to me, I was struck by how courteous he was.  I found myself flattered that he had chosen to share his real name with me.  I also appreciated that he had gone to the trouble to locate my blog, read some of it, and retrieve my email address (I had not given my email address to him purposefully… I figured if he was really interested, he would track me down via my blog, demonstrating a certain amount of follow thru).  I was also glad to see that he had mentioned my husband as I saw this as an indicator of respect to my marriage, which is an ABSOLUTE must in any connection I was to build with a Dom.

I wrote him back, he wrote me again, and I soon learned that he was headed off on a vacation with his family.  He would try to write soon, but it would most likely be sporadic.  Feeling a bit disappointed, I decided to return to the chat room and see what else might be available…

That is all for now 😊

Keep it kinky, my friends!

XOXO,

nora