The question—what sorts of things create a climate where you feel submissive?—was posed to me recently, and I’ve spent much time considering my answer. What exactly is it that sends me hurtling into subspace and sends tingles to all the right places?
There are some obvious answers and some that are more complex. Let’s begin with the obvious.
As I have written recently, use of particular words and phrases give me cause to feel very submissive. Terms of endearment, such as “little one”, “little girl”, and “good girl” contribute, but also sterner endearments such as “young lady” or “little miss”. There are certain ways of speaking to me that I would also say push my submissive buttons, such as “I expect to see X, Y, or Z from you in the future”, or “It would please me immensely for you to….” And of course, the obvious phrases that lite any spanko’s fire, “you are well on your way to earning a spanking, young lady”, “I might change my tone unless you are looking to earn a sore bottom”, “I think a good spanking is in order, nora, wouldn’t you agree?”, or “Well done, little miss, you have just earned yourself some time over my knee.”
But there is much more to inducing my submissive mindset than simple words or phrases and this touches on the concept of a man’s style of dominance feeding my submission. This is unique to each dominant which I have encountered (not that I have encountered many) and speaks to a dominant’s way of being in the world. His intelligence, his self-control, his demeanor, his consistency, his creativity, his insight, his use of affection, his understanding of the mind and human behavior all influence the potential for his dominance to feed my submission.
His expectations and requirements are other elements which establish a climate in which I desire to gift to him my submission. In my mind, my Dom would push for excellence, would require the highest levels of honesty, vulnerability, and integrity, and would settle for nothing less than me becoming the best version of myself that I can become. He would be able to see me clearly—my positive attributes and the ones which need work—and generate experiences of self-growth to target these areas.
I’d also have to list his ability to generate true remorse in my heart via the use of a stern lecture (when warranted) ranking high on my list of things that make me go ooey gooey submissive. And, the obvious…his interest in using physical chastisement, such as spanking, mouth soaping, corner time, etc. to discipline me pushes me right over the edge into subspace…every.single.time.
Just a little insight into this girl’s submissive mindset.
Keep it kinky, my friends!