A sexy self-growth project- 30 days of D/s, part deux (Day 2) 18+, NSFW

Hello, my friends!

Three years ago, I participated in the Loving BDSM’s 30 Days of D/s writing prompts and from this experience, I learned a lot about myself and about D/s.  Recently, I embarked on re-reading my former posts and realized that so much of what I have written in the past was either no longer relevant, or, my views on the topics had evolved into something else entirely.  I thought it might be fun to share my before and now posts, side by side.

Also, please note that while I refer to a Dominant as “He” and a submissive as “she” in my writing, this is only done to reflect my own experiences. I do not believe that either role is more inherent to either gender.

Keeping it kinky!

XOXO,

Nora

December 20, 2020

Loving BDSM   30 Days of D/s – Day 02

Does a submissive have certain behaviors? Do submissive’s do specific tasks? When you think of a submissive and submission, what thoughts come to mind?

I think the most accurate statement in my former post (from 2017) is that submission is not easy.  Nevertheless, it is what I strive for.  I have learned that I have a deep-seated longing to submit to a Dom and to please him through obedience.  I yearn for this with every fiber of my being.

From what I have learned on this journey, certain types of submissives do enact certain behaviors.  I am still unsure which “type” of submissive I am, though I did recently start reading Conquer Me, which provides a thorough outline of submissive types.  My goals for my own behavior include demonstrating my affection and respect for my Dom in all that I do, being a picture of patience and grace in his eyes, proving emotional maturity across different situations over time, and obedience.  I long to show my submission to my Dom by obeying his every word and desire.  I find this longing to be an incredible motivator and that often I do not even have to think about what I am doing…I just automatically behave in ways which I feel will please him.  When I am this deep in subspace, my own preferences or comfort seem unimportant. 

When I think of submission, I think of a woman kneeling before her Dom.  Her heart is full of love and she feels safe. She knows that she is cared for and that he will nurture her to be the best version of herself.  She trusts him with all that she has and all that she is.  Her Dom is the sun which her world revolves around. 

           


May 20, 2017

What is submission?  Let us first explore…Webster’s dictionary tells us that submission is “an act of submitting to the authority or control of another” and “the condition of being submissive, humble, or compliant”.  If you are to Google image search the word “submission” the first image that appears (as of today) shows the bare neck of a woman, who is holding up her hair to reveal a leather collar firmly in place, with the tag line “some people crave being told what to do”.  If we examine pop culture, the 50 Shades of Grey novels portray the story of a man who craves submission from women, who asks them to sign a binding contract, and who takes them into a specifically designed room for pleasure and pain.  If we reminisce and look back through the decades, many of us still remember when wedding vows included “to love, honor, and obey”, encouraging wives to submit to their husbands. 

As I think on these different examples, trying to articulate what submission means to me, I think about change.  I think about my own journey in learning submission, which has changed me greatly as I learn to submit, to yield to my husband and to obey him even when I don’t want to.  When I think about submission I think about self-growth, about learning who you are deep inside, about exploring your fears, desires, and needs.  And what I realize is that submission is a way of life.  It is my way of life now, and it brings me fulfillment in ways I’ve never experienced before.

I am a submissive.  More specifically, I am my husband’s submissive.  I belong to him, not as an object to be bought or sold, but as a woman who needs to be cared for and nurtured.  In a way, I am like a little girl again being raised by my Daddy and molded into the type of wife he wants by his side.  Traits that Daddy encourages in his submissive, his little girl (me), are sweetness, politeness, nurturing, and respect of him and his authority.  Behaviors that Daddy encourages are immediate obedience to his will and the acceptance of his discipline.  If I were to get more specific to the submission expected of me I am to always have the dishes cleaned before Daddy gets home from work, I am to never argue with him, I am to hold still during my spankings, I am to be quiet during corner time and thoughtfully reflect upon my discipline, I am to write my lines neatly and present them to Daddy when he comes home, I am to tend to his needs in the evening and make his life more comfortable, I am to sit at his feet, nude, while he strokes my hair lovingly, I am to keep a neat and tidy home, I am to call him Daddy or Sir when he lectures me, I am to absorb his lectures and learn from them…and so on.

Daddy demands my submission and I desire above all else to give it to him.  Submission isn’t easy, in fact, I have no doubt that learning to submit consistently will be a lifelong journey for me.  But in my marriage, submission is an ultimate act of love, it is an agreement between man and wife…and it is a way of life. 

13 thoughts on “A sexy self-growth project- 30 days of D/s, part deux (Day 2) 18+, NSFW

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  1. There’s a part of me who wants to be the sweet wife who always supports. But also the brat in me sometimes comes out. So the yes sirs turn into make mes. And in the end it’s all about your dynamic.

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  2. I love your paragraph about feeling warm and safe – your writing is worthy of the bit in a great novel where the Dom/me explains how it works.

    Why oh why can’t this be the public perception of BDSM rather than the utterly distasteful and inaccurate perception a lot of the public has.. its so unfair!

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