Sharing: A Guest Post from The SafeworD/s Club #18+, NSFW

Sub Mace and Vixen Lee return to consider, together, how a D/s Dynamic outside of a primary relationship can work. Relationships with the people we love develop as a consequence of attractions and shared interests, personality compatibilities and proximity. We may meet someone who we become attracted to or who we find interesting and then…

Then there were three ~ D/s outside a primary relationship — The SafeworD/s Club

My dear readers,

It meant a great deal to me to read this post this morning (a big shout out to guest authors, Vixen Lee and Sub Mace, over at The SafeworD/s Club!).  I find myself comforted that others are figuring out how to make these unconventional D/s dynamics work.  As many of you know, I am married to a fantastic man who indulges me by incorporating domestic discipline into our marriage, and who really does want to give me everything that I desire.  I adore him for that (thank you, Daddy!).  We recently made the decision to set aside the D/s stuff…which wasn’t easy.  But, Daddy really isn’t in the headspace to dominate me in that way, nor am I in the right headspace to submit to him.  Almost 20 years together has conditioned certain behavior patterns and ways of interacting that are proving very difficult to change, on both sides, and on some days…we aren’t even sure we want to change anything.  As we are incredibly happy together and secure in our love for one another, we have decided that it feels okay for us to explore bringing in a Dominant person(s) who might be able to offer me the elements of D/s that would fulfill me and satisfy this part of myself.  This would need to be a person who understands that my marriage comes first, above all else.  Ideally, this would also be a person who is interested in conducting a D/s dynamic on-line, via Zoom, or other voice/video apps.  I’m really not interested in meeting some face-to-face, at least not at this time.  This girl wants to take it slow.

Vixen Lee writes, “But my new online friend wanted me, he wanted to protect and train me and he promised to not interfere in my marriage or life with my kids. I knew, intuitively that he was the Dom for me. So, I entered into a contract with Master James and I have never felt so alive, loved, desired, and fulfilled.”  She also shared, “I have a life where I am still a Wife and Mother, going about daily activities and another where I am Vixen Lee, submissive of Master James. These two identities allow me to feel complete, happier and free. I no longer have to choose which way to live while suppressing the other. I think it is easy for others to judge those of us who can’t share this powerful mindset and relationship with the person we live with but this need I have, without a Dominant, would leave one half of who I am uncared for and un-supported.”

This is what I desire!  I have faith that the Universe will bring this person into my life, if he or she isn’t already present.  In the meantime, I will do my best to be patient 😊

Stay kinky, my friends!

With love,

Nora