Back to the basics! #18+, NSFW

Hello, my friends!

It has been quite some time since I wrote an open and honest account of Daddy and I’s journey with our respective roles as Dominant and submissive in our dynamic.  I realize that I tend to mention the sexy, kinky stuff more…you know, the stuff that comes easy to us…public spankings, erotic blowjobs, and mind-blowing sex (which may or may not have been witnessed by a naughty maid 😊) rather than the nuts and bolts of how challenging it can be to actually make a D/s dynamic work.  Last week though, while driving through the Nevada desert on our vacation (not much to see out there, folks) we had a very insightful conversation as to how we would both like to see our dynamic evolve. 

The thing is…D/s hasn’t been working for us for some time now.  We have had many stops and starts, which has proven frustrating to us both.  Recently, we were provided with some very wise advice by our good friends, Implacable and his lovely wife, who have come to know us and our dynamic quite well.  Recognizing that while D/s may not necessarily suit us at this point in our lives, Implacable suggested that we might return to our roots…domestic discipline (DD).  For those of you who have been following me from the conception of this blog, you might remember that Daddy and I started this journey by incorporating domestic discipline into our marriage.  It was only later that we began to move away from DD and more into the D/s realm.  While there are many elements of D/s that I find quite attractive, it requires a great deal of thought, time, and consistency on behalf of the Dominant.  At this point in our lives, and where we are both at as people, we just kept hitting a wall with regard to D/s.  So, I am happy to report that we are both quite pleased to be resuming our DD journey!

Over the last few years, I think Daddy and I have both learned a lot about ourselves…our strengths, our weakness, and our true desires.  I have learned that I crave being held accountable and that I need to know that there are consequences for my actions should I choose to make poor decisions or engage in unacceptable behaviors.  Daddy has learned that he struggles to make on the spot decisions (with regard to discipline and consequences).  He also tends to be a bit of a softie and he will be the first to admit that his first inclination is almost always to give me a second chance, which isn’t helpful to either of us.  To address both our needs, we decided to lay everything out and we drew up an official contract to serve as our guide on this journey.  We took the process of creating this contract quite seriously and we are both very pleased with the outcome.  Having received permission from Daddy to share, here is our official DD contract.  You will note that it is good for one month and at that time, we will decide whether to nix it all together or if we are really on to something 😊

Domestic Discipline Contract:

Between Daddy & Nora

This contract is between Daddy (Head-of-Household) and Nora (his respectful wife) and will be observed for one month (expires 11/22/20).  This contract is intended to bring peace and harmony to their household, and to meet their individual needs.  Daddy is seeking validation as an equal partner, deserving of respect, and capable of making sound decisions.  Nora is seeking self-improvement (i.e. learning to be less critical, speaking with more respect, becoming more open to opposing ideas or ways of doing things, and displaying a softer demeanor) through accountability to the agreed upon rules.  Daddy and Nora agree to discuss her progress each week on Sunday.  At that time, this contract may be modified if both parties are in agreement.  This weekly discussion will be concluded with any of the agreed upon discipline listed below to reinforce Daddy’s position as Head-of-Household, and Nora’s position as his respectful wife.          

Rules

At all times, Nora will display a respectful attitude and speak respectfully to Daddy.

Nora will make the bed and clean the kitchen each day before 5pm.

Nora will complete her To-Do list each day or reach out to Daddy prior to him getting off work with a request for an extension due to unforeseen circumstances.

Nora will always check-in with Daddy when leaving the house. 

Nora will watch no more than 30 minutes of television during the workday, twice per week, on the downstairs TV.

Nora will seek permission from Daddy before engaging in any acts of sexual self-pleasure.

Nora will immediately self-report any infractions of the agreed upon rules.

Nora will not argue with Daddy regarding infractions or consequences but will submit to his authority immediately.     

Consequences for Breaking a Rule

A spanking

A lecture

Corner time

Grounding

Writing lines or a letter of apology.

Automatic mouth soaping for any disrespect.

For repeated offenses within the same week, Daddy may choose to deny self-pleasure for up to 48 hours.

Well, there you have it my friends…the nuts and bolts of our DD dynamic!  Wish me luck…I am really hoping to avoid the soap at all costs 😊

Keeping it kinky!

XOXO,

Nora