Choices #18+, NSFW

I was a bad girl this morning.

Something that I have been continuously working on is how I speak to my husband.  Well, I failed miserably this morning.  I was fairly worked up for a Saturday.  I had just written a letter that I felt very uncertain about and was experiencing a fair amount of emotional angst.  By the time my husband woke and joined me in our living room, I had worked myself into quite the emotional tizzy.

The first time I criticized him, I apologized.  He accepted this apology with a raised eyebrow and a warning not to let it happen again.

The second time it happened, he told me that I had a choice.  10 minutes of corner time with a bar of soap in my mouth, or a spanking that would conclude with the cane.

As I am hosting girl’s night tonight and really didn’t want to be tasting the residue of soap with my wine, I chose the spanking.

He sent me to our bedroom, and even though he hadn’t made the request, I put myself in the corner and bared my bottom.  Hey… a girl has got to try to earn points where she can!

When he came in, he simply said, “good girl” and made his way to our walk-in closet.  I guess my display of submission was a little too late.

I heard him swishing the cane about which I knew was for my benefit… Daddy likes to inspire a little fear in this girl’s heart when she has earned it.

He took me by the arm and led me to the bed.  He arranged the pillows to his liking and told me to get over them.  When I was in position, he lifted my nightie, exposing my bare bottom.

“You are going to learn to respect me, Nora,” he told me, starting to firmly spank my bare behind with his granite palm.

“I am tired of having to repeat this same lesson, so you should expect more severe punishments in the future should this happen again,” he told me, turning my bottom a fiery red. 

The lecture he gave me inspired real tears.  I felt truly sorry and he hadn’t even started in with the cane yet.

When the volley of smacks to my bare behind finally stopped, I was dismayed to see him walk over to the chaise lounge and pick up the cane he had set there.  I think my heart skipped a beat when I realized that this was not our regular cane.  He had chosen the heavy one…the thick one…the one that is both thuddy and stingy.  This particular cane was a cane to be feared by the naughty girl who had earned it.

He told me that I had earned six strokes and I started crying again with the news.  I pleaded leniency.

“You will count each stroke and after each one, I’d like to hear you say ‘I will respect my husband’,” he told me, showing no mercy (which quite frankly is out of character for my Daddy… I think he’s been learning from a certain someone). 

I managed to choke out, “Yes, Sir,” and my caning began.

Each stroke was more painful than the last, and the stroke placed across my upper thighs will not soon be forgotten.  I cried a lot, my friends.  The kind of ugly tears that women hate to own up to, where our faces get red and our noses run.

A lesson was learned this morning.  My husband made his point, and his stinging reminder still burns across my bottom.  Let’s hope that this girl doesn’t need a repeat reminder any time soon.

But I am curious…would you have chosen the soap or the caning?  Naughty minds would like to know!

XOXO,

Nora  

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  1. I’m kinda glad we don’t have bars of soap here. We always buy liquid soap.
    But I am so fearful of pain, I can’t do pain….I would go for the soap.

    I would be so confrontational if Ben said that to me. I would say well, you can either iron your own shirts for a month or cook dinner for yourself every night….but Ben and I are a different ground of coffee. But I do respect him….and it’s not even hard to. He is a magnificent man, wiser, calmer, more organized than me, kind and generous…and gorgeous. The respect is always there. I sometimes tease him, but he seems to like that.

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    1. LOL…being confrontational would get me nowhere! But, only because this is the dynamic that I have agreed to. When we made our agreement, I agreed to abide by certain rules. So…being confrontational about breaking a rule that I agreed to would only earn me further discipline. Please know that this is very much the relationship that I want with my husband ❤

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      1. I respect that Nora. It’s clear you are happy. I do believe every relationship is different and unique to the individuals involved.

        I totally understand respect….from my core I respect Ben, but we don’t have rules. I just find ways to show it. But I also tease him, just as he teases me. But Ben has a great comic streak in him. His work is intense, so I think he likes a giggle.

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        1. I think that having fun together, teasing one another, is such an important part of any authentic, romantic relationship. One of the first things that attracted me to my husband, nearly twenty years ago, is his wicked sense of humor. Never stop teasing one another, and never stop giggling ❤

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    2. Jenna, liquid soap is even better as a punishment. You can make sure it gets all over the mouth. “Swish it around like mouthwash” would be a command with it…

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  2. Blimey, I’m with you Nora! No soap please the residue can be tasted for days! I also commiserate with the ugly tears red face and snotty nose thing too. I too look an absolute delight when I’ve taken a caning. I guess it’s harder when we know we deserve it? Doesn’t make it feel any easier though. 😦 ((((HUGS)))) Darlin’. Here’s to a long memory and quick reminder when you feel like sniping at your husband again. xxx

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    1. Agreed, Gem! The last time he washed my mouth out with soap, I tasted it for hours! And yes…it is harder when we know we deserve it, which I absolutely did. I really need to learn to think before I speak. I don’t know why that is so hard for me! Thank you for the hugs…right back at you! 🙂

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  3. If the soap ever becomes an inevitable outcome again, I recommend that you make sure that there is some coal tar soap in the house, the see through amber coloured type, not the black type. Forget the name, it was just invented before they had invented sales and marketing names. It is a bit more tangy and less soapy flavoured than normal soap. But to answer your question, I would have chosen the caning 🙂

    Prefectdt

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    1. Thank you for the advice, Spankedhortic! I’ll see if I can switch the soap out, but I’m not sure Daddy would let me. He’s a fan of a good old fashioned bar of ivory. Thank you for sharing your answer to my question! Glad to know I’m not the only masochist in these parts 🙂

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  4. Yeah I don’t know…I’m kinda accustomed to soap since I used to make it, and I can’t count the number of times I’ve touched it to my tongue to see if the lye had fully saponified yet! I’d probably do the soap. I’m also terrible at enduring pain, even though I fantasize about HD being heavier handed with me. Once the spanking actually starts, the pain overloads my system and I am ready to tap out! I’m not even strong enough to withstand the pain necessary for marks.

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    1. HeartsHope….you purposefully put your tongue to soap, lady!!! I can’t even imagine. I’ll be honest…I’m similar to you with regard to pain. I’ll probably choose the spanking every time, but I am the biggest baby about it 🙂

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      1. Lol! That’s the cheapest way to determine if a bar is ready to be used! The other way involves buying test strips and I was too poor for that. 😀
        Ooof I always think I’m not going to survive the spanking and then I do somehow.

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          1. hahahaha! If it still has unsaponified lye, it will cause a slight ‘zap’. Like pressing a 9v battery to the tongue. If it the lye has fully saponified, there won’t be a zap and it can be used (unless it needs more time for water to evaporate). 🙂

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              1. Lol it’s a very small zap, and it’s just a light touch so there isn’t much of a taste. But I’ve done it enough times that the taste of soap wouldn’t be as much of a deterrent as it would be to the average person.

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  5. Given the choice, I’d have taken the cane: I’ve had my mouth washed out with soap and every time I was as sick as a dog, puking with the runs on top of it so yeah – even back then, I’d rather get my ass beaten with switches than to have a bar of soap in my mouth.

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    1. I hear ya, kdaddy! Thank you for sharing. I never had my mouth washed out with soap as a child (thankfully!), but I absolutely did not enjoy the experience the one time my Daddy felt it was necessary. I didn’t actually get sick, but my gag reflex was definitely in high gear.

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      1. If nothing else, you learned a valuable lesson about not letting certain things come out of your mouth. Whenever I read some stuff about BDSM and it involves bars of soap being put into mouths. I have that flashback to my younger days and having that ghostly taste of Ivory soap in my mouth and it does make me wonder why anyone would want to be punished in that way…

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  6. You are lucky your Daddy gives you a choice! My Sir refuses to punish me physically, even though I tell him it would be entirely different if it were a punishment. (I don’t even know if I believe that either, to be honest lol)
    He said the next time I get sassy its a mouth of soap with a pee rinse after 😳 so I’ve been a very very good girl as of late!

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    1. Yes, I guess I am lucky! I am truly hoping we never graduate to the “pee rinse” some of you speak of…I really don’t see my Daddy bringing that up. That may be a hard limit for me. I could probably tolerate it on my body, but I’m not sure I could wrap my mind around him peeing in my mouth. Your ability to submit blows my mind, Miss D! You are definitely the teacher at this point 🙂

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      1. Hey just to clarify, I have not got to the point where I can drink it straight from the source, lol Nor have I had it straight either. Sir has so far been gracious enough to mix it with iced tea. But assures me the time is coming where I will take it straight from him 😬😬 Also, I have not had to endure the pee rinse yet, its just a warning.

        But I did just get in trouble. I had two orgasms while on the phone with him. He only permitted one. But in my defense he kept talking! So I assumed it was ok to keep going. One guess on how that excuse went over, my friend 😦 He won’t tell me the punishment yet, so I can sit and stew. Humf.

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        1. Thank you for clarifying, Miss D! I must be thinking of DDjennifer. You girls are all so naughty 🙂
          I’m sorry to hear you are in trouble! It definitely sounds like you earned it though 🙂 Hope we get to read all about it!

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  7. I think I might have taken the soap! The only one who has bar soap in our house is me. I always buy natural soaps. Maybe they taste better?!?
    (And I do drink pee from the source too—lol)

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    1. LOL…the only bar of soap waiting for me, is the bar of ivory that Daddy keeps tucked away in his bathroom drawer for naughty girls (no pretty, natural soaps here!). Whenever I am cleaning the bathroom, and see it there in his drawer, in the travel case he stores it in…dread runs through me! The disgusting taste is one thing…but the humiliating way that it makes you drool is just nearly intolerable to this girl. I’ll take the spanking, thank you very much. And back to the pee thing…. just not sure I could do it! You are braver than I, my friend 🙂

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  8. I would have picked the soap. I get organic locally produced by hand bars. The rest of the house uses liquid body wash. And I’m a bit of a baby about pain. (I licked my bar once just to taste it and it wasn’t bad) Please don’t tell.

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  9. You’re absolutely right Nora that is gals must stick together. And what he doesn’t know won’t hurt him. I’ve never been naughty enough to earn the bar. Usually just a trip over the knee and under the bath brush.

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  10. Oh girl you don’t even know. After some bio freeze that HURTS!! But like all us naughty subs (and switches) the second the pain wore off I was back to misbehaving. Hehe.

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  11. That is a really tough choice, but when you’ve been bad, there are no easy choices. I hate the soap idea. I have no experience with that. It sounds very gag-worthy. I am rather picky about what goes in my mouth, and I imagine others are as well. I don’t associate soaping with a punishment from Daddy, but I can’t say it doesn’t sound effective as a way to manage unacceptable expression that might come out of a girl’s or boy’s mouth. Then there’s the cane, with which I am also unfamiliar. Despite the lack of first-hand knowledge, I still think of caning as an especially difficult punishment to endure. All-in-all a tough choice for sure, but whatever side of the situation I am on, I would have to go with the caning, as I feel spanking is a better method of discipline. At least in my opinion, the stinging that continued to burn across your bottom puts a bad girl or boy in a more desirable state of mind than the bitter residual taste of soap in your mouth. You also thoroughly cried your eyes out, an effective cathartic resolution that happens when a lesson is learned through corporal punishment.

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  12. WOW what a hard choice: “10 minutes of corner time with a bar of soap in my mouth, or a spanking that would conclude with the cane” I can’t choose either.
    Some of your words really hit home with me, You said, “starting to firmly spank my bare behind with his granite palm”
    Granite palm– I have often said my man’s hands were as hard as hairbrush, that I couldn’t tell the difference between being spanked with a hairbrush or his palm. And cried like a baby with a hand spanking.

    How did the girl’s night turn out? A standing or sitting event. I hope you weren’t sitting around playing cards? Because cane stroke placed across your upper thighs, makes sitting almost impossible.
    I would like to know if you would have made the same choice?

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    1. Smiles. Great follow up question, johnsonjelena45! While it was a while back, I do remember sitting on a fairly sore seat all night. Thankfully the patio chairs have comfy cushions!

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