I shake my head and laugh at myself a bit, when I remember how I used to think that I was a patient person.  I realize now that I had no idea what the meaning of patience was and how it would come to define my journey.  Before this trial, this test, I would have told you that I could make things happen.  That if there was a will, there was a way.  That if I just kept trying, I could accomplish any goal. 

But as I am learning, that is not always true.  Sometimes, the thing you need to “try” at is simply having patience and let whatever it is unfold at its own pace.

There is nothing simple about this for me. Learning patience will be no easy feat.

With that said, my dad always told me that the best things in life were those you had to work the hardest to get/have. 

If I were the teacher, I’d award myself a solid “C” at this point…average at best.  I’d be a pretty strict teacher too so this grade would be accompanied by a dozen firm swats with the paddle, applied to a bare seat of course, to encourage better efforts.  I digress.

As others have said:

“To lose patience is to lose the battle”  ~ Mahatma Gandi

“Patience attracts happiness; it brings near that which was far” ~ Swahili Proverb

“Patience is not the ability to wait, but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting” ~ Unknown

“With love and patience, nothing is impossible” ~ Daisaku Ikeda

“One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life” ~ Chinese Proverb

One of my greatest mentors, Mr. Oxford, shares that patience is 1 the ability to stay calm and accept a delay or something annoying without complaining, and 2 the ability to spend a lot of time doing something difficult that needs a lot of attention and efforts.

Upon further reflection, learning patience may be the key to learning submission, at least, for this girl.  I say this because not having the control, not being able to make something happen on my own timeline makes me feel very uncomfortable in my own skin.  Rather than stay the course and submit to patience, my knee jerk reaction is to consider changing directions, abandon hope, or rail against the very outcome I wish to procure.  This is childish, and I can do better.

I will do better.

With love and in deep reflection,


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  1. Being patience was, at one point, not even close to being a good thing for me. But years of martial arts training along with being married and parenthood, taught me how to be patient even when everything inside me was saying, “Patience my ass – I gotta do something NOW!” Learning it is one thing; doing it and consistently so is so very different and if we don’t learn anything else, we learn that being patient is always going to be a work in progress and something we might not get an “A” in – but we do the best we can.

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    1. Thank you for this thoughtful response, kdaddy. I agree that patience will be a journey, a work in progress, and not a destination that I will arrive to. I’m afraid that I have much work to do in this area, but I am looking forward to it as it will help me to be a better person. I hope you have a wonderful day, my friend ❤

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  2. You know how much I can relate to this my friend.
    I feel my patience has gotten better. But still needs much work.
    What has helped me as a submissive with my patience is that I ‘m able to put full trust in my Sir. I know he has my emotional, physical and mental well being at the forefront. So I’m able to let go and trust something will happen at the right time, instead of pushing my own agenda.
    It sounds good right? Lol Of course I still struggle with it at times though!

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    1. Thank you for sharing this, Miss D! I ordered a book today, to help me in this quest. I am surrounded by people who are loving and supporting me through this journey…even though it may be painful at times, I am looking forward to improving myself💞

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  3. Patience is the ultimate submission. In the west we’re taught to “go and get it.” Whatever it is. Slack time is wasted time. Or as my old man used to say, “DO SOMETHING! Even if it’s wrong.” (I think that was a holdover from his army days.) Learning to wait for something to open up, to come your way…for the right time is not easy. But necessary.

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    1. I really value this comment, HotBottoms…thank you for your insight! I was raised similarly, to believe that I needed to always go and get what I wanted, because nobody was going to hand it to me. And so…I did. But, as I am learning, that doesn’t always apply in every situation and especially in a D/s dynamic. I am really looking forward to this journey and have ordered a book on patience as my first step (and now I am impatiently waiting for it to arrive! 🙂 ). It sound like you have been on this journey yourself… if you have any tips/insights/experiences you would like to share, I am all ears 🙂
      XOXO, Nora

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