I tend to take the world at face value…meaning, I don’t often spend much time analyzing the “why’s” when it comes to my own life. Examples to illustrate this concept could be….why do I want to submit to my husband, or why do I desire to have my husband implement corporal punishment on me if I break one of our rules? For me, it is simple…the answer is, I just do. I don’t question “why” as it isn’t of much importance to me.
When I explore that thought though, I do wonder… “why?”. Why don’t I seem to be as invested in figuring out the “why’s” as much as some of my fellow bloggers? Am I just a lazy thinker? Is it that I spend way too much of my time at work (both as a psychologist, and as a professor) helping others to see the “why’s”? Or, does it have to do more with my overall world view…”let it be”. Who the heck really knows…
But this question, “is D/s my real life” is one that has been nagging at me. I awoke this morning to find a post written by furcissy, further teasing out this concept and I just can’t stop thinking about it. I’m not sure I can say that D/s is my “real” life as very few of my friends and family know that my husband and I have invoked a power exchange in our marriage. Yes, I am “out” to my WordPress family, and I have told two of my girlfriends about it…but for the most part, D/s is kept under wraps. Not everyone is like this. For example, blogger ddjennifer has come out about D/s to her family and her friends (if you are not following her yet, you should be!). To me, this seems more real, and yet…I cannot imagine it for my own life.
However; is this the only aspect to something being your “real” life? Probably not. After all, D/s is something that consumes a lot of our time. My husband and I talk about it a lot, we live it during our days, and I spend an awful lot of time writing about it and reading about it on the blogs of others…it is absolutely at the forefront of my mind.
Reflecting on all of this, and considering perspective and personal constructs, I guess it boils down to this… it really doesn’t matter. I am happy living the life that I am living. Much of my personal life…our D/s, my spanking fetish, my love of sex & masturbation… all of that is private, but it is “real” to me.
If you stuck out this post until the end…thank you! It is not often I get all philosophical on you 😊
Have a sexy Sunday, ya’all!