The Mantra of a Submissive

The Mantra of a Submissive

After much discussion, trial and error, and starts and re-starts, Daddy and I have renewed our commitment to a 24/7 power exchange.  This renewed commitment highlights our desire for Daddy to lead our marriage and to have full and total authority over me.  This dynamic requires that I fully submit to him in whichever ways he desires, and that he has the right to discipline me if I fall short of his expectations.  For any of my new readers, we have been living this life style for just over a year’s time and our marriage has dramatically improved!  Our sex life has as well 🙂

For the most part, this dynamic has been occurring with ease between us, however; my baby girl side occasionally rears her not-so-appealing head at times and we were seeking a remedy for this problem.  But first, clarification: I would describe my “baby girl side” as some of my more child-like qualities… the me who gets cranky, whiny, and throws tantrums when she doesn’t get her way or when she is being disciplined (or when she is tired or hungry).  That said, my baby girl side tends to get me into trouble and I resist Daddy’s re-direction and even his discipline when in this frame of mind (which gets me in even more trouble!).

To address this issue, we figured out that part of the problem is that I am not in the right “head space” during this time.  I am not feeling submissive (and am acting like a terrible brat!).  Together, Daddy and I created a mantra that he will prompt me to say when I am behaving like this, in the hopes that by saying these words I will be reminded of the commitment that I made to him and to our D/s dynamic.  The following mantra was created in the hopes that it will: remind me of who I am and who he is within our dynamic, remind me that I need to honor my commitment to obey him, and reinforce within my own mind his authority over me.


My submission mantra:

I submit to you, my Husband and my Daddy,

freely and without reservation,

and especially when I don’t want to.

I will work harder to maintain a more pleasing attitude,

and to submit to your will.

I accept your complete and total authority over me.

I am yours.


Unfortunately, Daddy is away this week, traveling for work.  We created this mantra together on Sunday and he expressed that he expects me to have it fully and perfectly memorized for him by Thursday evening when he returns.  I worked on it for 30 minutes today (this was at Daddy’s request, and I was instructed to be sitting on the small glass plug while rehearsing) both reciting it out loud and typing it over and over.  While I feel that I have it memorized, the true test will be when I try to recall it tomorrow, to see if it has imprinted upon my memory.

I am really enjoying our renewed commitment to our dynamic.  The feelings of love and respect that I have for my husband are incredibly intense at times…and I feel like a young girl in love again, without the weight of the world on my shoulders.

Thank you for stopping by!

Happy reading and writing 🙂

Love, nora

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          1. I write a couple of posts on it last summer. The initial mantra and then the revised version. The current version is almost the same—only added “cheerful” in one spot. I believe you have read those posts… 🤣

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                1. LOL…no worries! And, that I totally get! When I play on WordPress in the mornings with my coffee, I am always using my laptop…so much easier. I use my phone occasionally now too, but never to post, do links, or anything other than comment.

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  1. Nora I think this is a great idea, we don’t have one but I may mention it, it’s hard to stay on track at times. We’ve lapsed ourselves, Master’s stress from work, he doesn’t sleep well, so things get missed, which is often when I get into trouble. Hopefully things will get on track again. Good luck to both of you, and your bratty side, which I do find fun myself. Xxxxx

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    1. Hi daliacatt! LOL…my bratty side can be fun at times, as long as I don’t take it too far and irritate Daddy. From what I have learned here on WordPress, many submissives do have mantras. Some have ones that they say when they first wake up, or at maintenance sessions. We have one other mantra which I say at Daddy’s request that is, “I am Daddy’s beautiful, obedient girl”. Makes me feel so good to say that one 🙂


  2. I like your mantra very much Nora 🙂 it’s good to see you guys renew your commitment. I think this has to happen in all relationships from time to time and it really does lead to refreshed feelings like falling in love all over again. 🙂

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  3. My wife is not all that controlling but I have seen the possibilities when she goes off on our kids (in a good way 😉 ). She likes hearing “I love you.” which we say often but over the last year I have added random comments like “I obey you.” “You control me.” “I am here to make your like pleasurable.” I keep them short and easy to spout out. She is becoming stronger in her decisions and methods. I know the continued reinforcement helps her feel that that is who she is.
    It’s not a mantra per se but the continued repetition make it become real.

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    1. Thank you for sharing this, herwishmycommand! I think I will start incorporating things like this with my HOH. You know, a lot of discussion is spent on how to keep a submissive feeling submissive…but I don’t see as much attention brought to reinforcing the Dominant’s dominance. Thank you for this! 🙂

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      1. You are welcome.
        Maybe it is looked at like topping from the bottom – but I feel more submissive saying those things and over time (I have come to realize) it helps support my wife in her role.

        Positive affirmations – speak them into existence 🙂

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    1. Hi cincy34! Oh, we definitely have hard limits! No pee/fecal play, no cutting or blood play, no tying me up and leaving me (safety first), and I’m sure there is more that just isn’t coming to mind. Basically, we communicate about everything before we try it the first time. And you are right…it takes a lot of trust on both sides. But it has created a very special bond between us ❤

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