Thank you Sayyidsgirl for introducing me to TMI Tuesday! As I currently don’t have much to blog about on the D/s front, it was nice to find something I could write about. Have a lovely day all and thank you for reading!
- Tell us two reasons why you would stay in a bad relationship.
This is a bit difficult to answer as anyone who has been in a long-term marriage knows that there are good times and bad times. Pushing through the bad times make the good times that much sweeter. So, I really can’t answer this with regard to my 15-year relationship with Daddy as I’ve never considered it a “bad” relationship, just a challenging one at times.
But, to answer the question…why would I stay in a bad relationship? I would say that there have been two times that I stayed longer than I should have in my past. And thankfully, I learned from both of them! The first time I stayed too long was my very first relationship. I was 14, and for almost two years, I allowed this total jerk of an adolescent male treat me like crap because…well, because I didn’t really know any better. In public, he was very charismatic, he was very handsome, my family liked him…but in private, he was verbally abusive and later, physically abusive. I was young and didn’t realize just how wrong this was. He forced our first sexual experience, he physically terrorized me when he heard an untrue rumor that I was cheating on him, and he would say the cruelest things…things that stuck with me for a long time. I’d like to say that I left him on my own accord…which is true to some degree. But, a very nice, strong, confident boy came into the picture and essentially protected me from this jerk, running him off…showing me what it was like to be in a healthy, loving relationship. Another time that I stayed too long in a bad relationship was while I was earning my bachelor’s degree. I dated a middle eastern man for three years and we were largely incompatible (how we viewed men and women’s roles, how we viewed our relationship, etc.)…our relationship was like a bad roller coaster! But, the chemical reaction between us was incredible. While we were both in anguish for most of the relationship…the lows were very low but the highs were very high…I still have the upmost respect for him. I hesitate to describe it this way, but I think we were addicted to one another and addicted to the intensity of our relationship. I think we both realized we couldn’t continue to live that way, and I broke things off the day before my college graduation. It was a painful time, for both of us. But, I believe that life works out as it is meant to…I am happily married, and he is married and building the large family he dreamed of.
So…there you have it…I stayed too long once because I was young, insecure, and didn’t know any better, and I stayed too long another time because of my own addiction to the intensity of the relationship. Live and learn! It’s all part of the journey that led me to Daddy!
- Do you wish your private life was kinkier?
Currently, yes, I do wish this. But, while I feel like a starving woman now, Daddy and I have enjoyed periods of time where our sex life was phenomenal and very kinky. I look forward to life settling down and getting back to that place.
- Tell us about your weirdest sexual experience.
Ummm….a weird sexual experience? I don’t know if this is weird or just gross, but once I had been masturbating with the same vibrating toy for some time (probably upwards of two hours)…after I orgasmed, I pulled the toy out…to find that I had peed during orgasm. I had no idea. And no, this wasn’t the elusive female ejaculation…this was actual urine. I was glad to be flying solo during that particular experience. Sorry…but this is TMI Tuesday!
- Can you have a totally hands-free orgasm?
To date, I have never had a hands-free orgasm but I think that if I was horny enough, and motivated enough, I could probably make it happen by running through some of my favorite fantasies in my head. Challenge accepted!!!
- What tips can you give for staying hard (you personally or keeping your partner hard)?
For me, staying hard (or getting wet) comes largely from being in a sexy mental space. I’ve noticed that one way to keep Daddy hard, if he is having trouble focusing, is to tell him sexy stories. These stories usually revolve around threesomes and having him imagining what I would do to the other woman. I also incorporate spankings and blow jobs… works every time
Bonus: Is it okay to not celebrate Valentine’s Day even though you have a partner? Why or why not?
This is a silly question! Each couple should do as they please and not feel pressured by societal expectations. To ensure that no one has hurt feelings though, the couple should communicate his/her thoughts on the matter. Personally, I like Valentine’s Day. I usually make Daddy some chocolate covered strawberries for the occasion. And, he usually gets a card and a gift for me. I’m not sure what this year will bring as Daddy is not in a good mental space. He is also out of town for work. Good thing I have two little puppies to be my Valentines!
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