30 Days of Submission- Day 2

Describe who you might submit to and how. Are you exclusively submissive in marriage or just in the bedroom? Are you submissive only in the context of a scene or in a role or throughout your daily life? Are you submissive to play partners or only in the context of a relationship?

Learning submission has been greatly challenging for me but also greatly rewarding in many ways.  My husband is the only person that I truly submit to, and he expects my submission both in and out of the bedroom, 24/7.  As a couple, D/s is fairly new to us, but we have found that both of us are much happier in more traditional male and female roles.  My husband feels more confident, more productive, and more in control as the head of our household.  And I can honestly say that I am happier in my new role as the submissive wife who obeys her husband.  This has not been an easy transition on either of us, but it has been very much worth the effort.

Prior to D/s, I was the head strong, go-getter, who felt unstoppable.  I earned my degrees early on and enjoy a very successful career that brings me joy.  While that all looks good on the outside, on the inside, I felt a bit miserable and discontent.  Accomplishing these things, being in control, being someone that others followed…it wasn’t what I was truly looking for, even though that is what I had been conditioned to become.  Who knew that I would be happiest on my knees, massaging the feet of the man I love?  Who knew that keeping his home neat and tidy, doing his laundry, and cooking all of his meals would bring me such great peace?  My former self could never have imagined it…

I wrote earlier that I only truly submit to my husband, which is true.  However; I have found that some of my new, more submissive qualities, have also changed my relationships with others.  I feel that I am quieter now, sweeter, more helpful, and I have noticed others in my life noticing this.  The other day my Dad told me that he loved what a loving home I kept and how everyone always felt at home in the home I keep.  I’ve also noticed that my relationship with my Aunt is a bit easier as we no longer butt heads about silly things.  I no longer care about being right all the time and don’t feel the need to always make a point.  Funny thing is, people respond well to this!  Who would have guessed it 🙂

While I still have a long way to go, I feel that my quest to learn submission has brought about great peace in my life.  I no longer crave control and I don’t suffer the anxiety that comes with trying to control everything and everyone is my own environment.  My submission is setting me free.

Thank you for reading!

Happy writing 🙂

~ nora

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    1. I think that is interesting too, Jad! I know for me personally, I am relieved to come home and not being in control there. I leave my “dominant” hat at the door and in our home, my husband is the leader 🙂

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  1. I have enjoyed experimenting with the Dom/sub relationship and while I know I find it incredibly exciting and stimulating in the bedroom I am yet to determine if it is something I want to pursue for more than bedroom activities.
    I am enjoying reading your journey 🙂

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    1. Thank you, DarkandDominant! I think that finding peace within yourself has a lot to do with age as well…as I near my forties, I look at life, love, and myself quite differently than I did when I was younger. As we age, I think we start to learn and master acceptance. Just some personal musings….


  2. “Who knew that I would be happiest on my knees, massaging the feet…”
    I feel similarly… except more so in that I am the male and it has been ingrained that I should be dominant. It is simply amazing to me that I get hard from my wife telling me I will be doing this or that for her. I walk away thinking WTF, I dont get it but I feel good serving her.

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