Reflecting on 30 Days of D/s- Day 25

Hello fellow bloggers! I have decided to partake in the 30 Days of D/s, which I will utilize as a writing exercise, presented by John Brownstone and Kayla Lords at Loving BDSM.  As suggested by the title, this free activity explores topics surrounding D/s relationships.  I know that there are many of us in this particular circle of writers who are engaged in this writing activity at the moment, so bear with me.  I think that this will be a useful endeavor in further exploring this new lifestyle that Daddy and I have set out on.  As always, thank you for reading!

~nora

Loving BDSM’s 30 Days of D/s – Day 25

Prompt: Not every D/s relationship is meant to be a 24/7 relationship. Some people don’t want that level of responsibility (Dom or sub). For others, it just won’t fit in with their life. If you think you want it now or you might want it some day, today is the day to think about what that actually means. Like everything else in D/s, your 24/7 relationship can and will look different from someone else’s version.  Do you want to go to 24/7 at some point? Why or why not? What do you think that would mean for your D/s relationship?

            Daddy and I are living this lifestyle 24/7.  For us, what that means is that he is the head of our household, he has the final say, and that I am to obey him at all times.  What this doesn’t mean is that he doesn’t care about my opinion or that I don’t make certain decisions for myself.  We still talk about everything and sort out this life together, as we always have.  But, what is different now, is that if we disagree, he will ultimately decide for us.  And this is working beautifully!

A weekday in our domestic discipline (DD) arrangement looks something like this: I wake up much earlier than Daddy and typically pick up the house and get the kitchen cleaned up before he leaves for work.  When he comes out of the bedroom, headed off to work (still slightly groggy as Daddy is not a morning person), he usually finds me in our living room or on the back deck reading blogs/writing blogs on WordPress.  We hug and kiss and he tells me to be a good girl.  At this point, I either need to wrap things up if I am working in the office, or I can play a little longer if I am working from home.  Soon after, I will get a text from Daddy outlining what I am to get done for him that day.  Sometimes this includes cleaning/organizing tasks, yard work, errands, etc. or sometimes it includes exercises to help me stay in a submissive mindset such as writing lines, being unable to wear clothing all day, being told I am not to leave the house that day, etc.  And once in a while, his orders are just to relax!  Love those days.

During the day, I obey Daddy and send him updates as I complete my assignments.  I also have to get my own work done for both of my jobs.  Daddy is interested in my work and very supportive, but he leaves this part of my life to me to organize, unless he sees that I need help meeting deadlines, not procrastinating, etc.  Daddy is usually home around five.  As we are homeowners and have several acres of property, we typically have evening chores to complete.  Daddy will usually read my mood when he gets home from work and if he senses that I am feeling a lot of stress or that I am depressed, he will typically give me a spanking to help me relieve those emotions.  These spankings may happen in the living room or kitchen, or he may have me completely undress and go to our bedroom.  These spankings are different from discipline spankings (which occur when I am disobedient).  They aren’t quite as hard or long and are designed to improve my mood.

When our evening chores are done, we make dinner.  Daddy loves to BBQ so he fires up the grill most nights and I prepare a salad or some other healthy side.  I usually water my plants while he BBQ’s.  We talk about our day and often the upcoming day and what needs to be done.  After dinner, we typically retire to the living room to watch something on Netflix.  At this point, I am typically nude and either sit by Daddy or sit at his feet.  Every evening I am to offer him a foot massage which must be performed kneeling on the floor at his feet, my breasts bare (if he hasn’t already requested I remove my clothing, I must remember to do this before his foot massage).  After his foot massage, I kiss each of his feet, and he either gives me permission to return to my seat, to stay on the floor, or to go to bed.  Once I am sent to bed, or granted permission to go to bed if I am tired first, I must go to our bedroom and kneel on the floor on his side of the bed.  Daddy has given me specific instructions for exactly how I am to be kneeling, hand placement, etc.  After locking up the house, using the bathroom, etc., Daddy then comes into the bedroom and stands close to me.  I am then to say, “Daddy, may I please have permission to sleep in our bed with you tonight?”.  Thus far, Daddy has granted me permission every night to sleep with him and each night he tells me how proud he is of my submission to him.  He then tucks me in and either joins me or heads back out to watch one of his shows.

Weekend mornings are slightly different as we are big fans of morning sex.  Also, I try to always make Daddy breakfast on weekends.  Other variations to our days include when we have company staying with us.  During these times, any spankings that need to occur typically happen in our walk-in closet.  I am also not required to call him Daddy or Sir if others are present, though last weekend he did challenge me to call him Daddy at least one time of the course of the evening when we had friends over for a BBQ.  Being a bit of an over-achiever, I called him Daddy twice that night, making our friends blush.

I love our new lifestyle (if you hadn’t picked up on that already!).  It is a new way of living and loving for us and we have been much happier upon discovery of DD and D/s.  While this is a 24/7 commitment for us, we are still very private.  Only two people in our lives know about the changes we have made in our marriage and both are very supportive of it.  As the years pass, things will inevitably change.  At some point, I imagine we will have other people living with us again whether that includes aging parents or nieces/nephews who need a temporary place to call home.  There will be some adjusting during those times but I have no doubt we will continue to make it work.

Happy writing 🙂

  nora