Hello fellow bloggers! I have decided to partake in the 30 Days of D/s, which I will utilize as a writing exercise, presented by John Brownstone and Kayla Lords at Loving BDSM. As suggested by the title, this free activity explores topics surrounding D/s relationships. I know that there are many of us in this particular circle of writers who are engaged in this writing activity at the moment, so bear with me. I think that this will be a useful endeavor in further exploring this new lifestyle that Daddy and I have set out on. As always, thank you for reading!
Loving BDSM’s 30 Days of D/s – Day 21
Prompt: You might have never heard of subfrenzy and still experienced it whether as the submissive or a Dominant. It’s a moment that happens for new submissives or submissives in new relationships where they get a little intense about their submission, sometimes to the detriment of their own safety. It can be overwhelming in healthy relationships and dangerous in bad relationships. It’s good to know what it is and how to recognize it, even if you’re past the point of thinking you’ll be affected by it.
Prior to this prompt, I was unfamiliar with the term “subfrenzy”. To rectify this, I visited both the Loving BDSM website as well as a kink website provided by kate kinsey. The definition of subfrenzy provided by miss kinsey is “that first rush of overwhelming, consuming desire to experience every kind of kink, as soon as possible, often to the point of neglecting all other concerns”. The point being made is that a submissive may be so caught up in experiencing his/her submission that he or she may neglect their own needs, safety, etc. While I always love expanding my understanding of this new (new to me) world of kink, I do not feel that I have experienced subfrenzy. I am still taking care of my own physical (working out, eating healthy, plenty of orgasms) and emotional (journaling, writing, time with friends) needs, as well as seeing to Daddy’s physical and emotional needs.
Now, this isn’t to say that Daddy and I haven’t been exploring various avenues of the D/s lifestyle…oh, have we been! But, we spend a lot of time discussing something before we incorporate it into our life, as we both see this as an investment in our relationship. Obviously, Daddy always has the final say but he tells me that he loves when I bring ideas to him, regardless if we apply them or not. For example, we recently incorporated kneeling into our marriage and I am still blown away by what this simple act as done for us. I think I may write more on that later…
As I read this prompt today, it brought to the forefront of my mind a blog post that I read yesterday from ddjennifer. While the intent of the post was not referencing subfrenzy, what I took from it was that it can be beneficial to just slow down sometimes. I feel that this is great advice. While it is fun and exciting to explore new fantasies, it certainly doesn’t need to happen all at once and it is important to consider new ideas from all angles. I look forward to savoring new experiences with Daddy in the future.
Happy writing 🙂