Hello fellow bloggers! I have decided to partake in the 30 Days of D/s, which I will utilize as a writing exercise, presented by John Brownstone and Kayla Lords at Loving BDSM. As suggested by the title, this free activity explores topics surrounding D/s relationships. I know that there are many of us in this particular circle of writers who are engaged in this writing activity at the moment, so bear with me. I think that this will be a useful endeavor in further exploring this new lifestyle that Daddy and I have set out on. As always, thank you for reading!
Loving BDSM’s 30 Days of D/s – Day 15
Prompt: Long distance relationships, trips without your partner, simply not living together – it all adds up to one thing: being D/s even when you’re not together. The solution you find for your relationship will be specific to you and to your circumstances, but if you’re already living through a long distance relationship or you think you might one day, it’s good to think about how to make it work when you’re apart.
I am grateful that Daddy and I live together and are together most of the time. However, he does occasionally have to travel for work. This has happened twice in the last five months and I felt that we handled it pretty well, though I noticed that I was much lonelier than I usually am. I think this can be explained in part by the recent family losses I have suffered but also because of the closer, more intimate bond that Daddy and I have forged through our new D/s lifestyle.
While he was gone for work, Daddy still expected me to follow his rules. He assigned me more written lines than usual and I think this was to help me stay in the submissive mindset even when he wasn’t present. He also made me stand in the corner one evening with a ginger fig inserted in my bottom because, as he said, he could just feel a tantrum coming on. Thankfully the corner time worked and a tantrum did not prevail, at least that time. He also gave me a rather hard spanking with the wooden paddle before he left, just to make sure that I remembered to behave while he was away. He frequently had me send pictures to him to ensure I was obeying…to see me in the corner, to see if I was nude, to see if I had a plug inserted, etc.
I am thankful that Daddy has not had to travel much lately as I miss him in a deeper way now when he is gone for work. We are getting to know one another on completely new levels—as Dominant and submissive, as Daddy and baby girl—and that has been a very intimate journey. While he can certainly assign me chores and other exercises to ensure obedience while he is away, I miss being in his arms each night when he is gone. I miss his breath in my hair when he holds me. I miss his strong hands…so capable of bringing me pleasure, but capable of bringing great pain as well when I have earned it. I miss lying next to him in our bed at night and hearing him sleep.
One benefit that D/s has brought to our relationship when Daddy does have to travel is that Daddy no longer tolerates me complaining while he is away. I am not to rant about how I hate his job (I don’t really hate his job, I just hate when he’s gone) and I am not allowed to throw emotional fits about being alone, having to do all the chores on my own, etc. I’ll be honest… I had some very bad habits about this before D/s. Almost every time that Daddy traveled we would get in a fight on the phone about something stupid, when what I was really upset about was being alone and unable to handle my emotions appropriately. The first time Daddy had to travel after we started D/s, he told me that if I threw any sort of tantrum whatsoever while he was gone, that I would get a spanking when he got back. I really did try to behave but my bad habits kicked in and I was up to my old tricks in no time. Well, I threw not just one, but two tantrums the week he was away and guess what? I got two separate spankings when he got home, and I swear I couldn’t sit comfortably for days. I have not thrown a tantrum since…and I was good as gold the next time he traveled.
Happy writing 🙂