Still being fairly new to domestic discipline, my husband and I discuss often with one another about how we each are doing in our new roles. There have been ups and downs for both of us. For me, realizing that this is real and that I must truly change has been very difficult. It may sound silly, but I had to realize that it is not a game and that my husband truly wants my submission in order to better our marriage. And I am learning submission every day under his stern guidance, and can I just say, man has he learned how to give a spanking! I am much more aware of what comes out of my mouth and I am learning not to nag and criticize him at every turn as I did the first decade of our marriage, which isn’t easy. Spankings are something I truly wish to avoid now, whereas in the beginning, it seemed naughty and fun to be bared by him for discipline. Don’t get me wrong, his spankings hurt in the beginning…but now, if he decides that I am to be spanked, it is a lengthy session where he doesn’t stop until he has broken my will, I am sobbing in repentance, and he knows that I won’t sit comfortably for days. And, for my husband, he has experienced ups and downs to. He revels in his new found dominant masculinity, but he has also discussed with me how much work it is to be dominant and to correct my behavior and help me become the woman we both want me to be. He says this in a loving way and I can’t help but feel special and loved that he is investing his time in me and in our marriage. Perhaps it is strange, but I feel cherished that he gives his time that way.
In one of our conversations we had discussed the way he lectures me prior to a spanking. His lectures were typically very brief and to the point and he let his hand (or paddle) do most of the talking. We decided together that it may be more beneficial for him to lecture me in more depth…and the effects were profound! I received my first true lecture a few nights ago and by the end of it, I was sobbing in contrition before my spanking even started. I am still in awe of how my husband broke me down using just his words and how effective it was in the lesson I was learning. He demonstrated his new lecturing skills again last night, when I talked down to him while we were doing a home project together. He took me by the arm, led me straight to the corner, and bared my bottom. I then had to stand in the corner, bare from my waist to ankles, while he lectured me on my poor attitude. I began to cry a little during the lecture but when he left me there, and finished working on our project without me, I cried even harder that I had let him down in that way. I didn’t get a spanking, but the lecture and corner time were truly effective in helping me see the error of my ways.
As I write this, I thought it might be beneficial- and a great learning experience- for us all to discuss what we would like to work on, whether you wield the paddle or are the one who is bent over and bared to receive it. My husband chose to work on his lecturing skills…and we are greatly benefiting from that decision. I have been working on (everything it seems!) admitting to my disobedience or disrespect prior to my husband having to point it out, and requesting correction. This has also been a wonderful step for us, as my husband always tells me how proud he is when I realize myself that I am in the wrong and bring him the paddle, despite my fear of the spanking to come.
So…if you would like to partake, what would you like to work on in your domestic discipline, HoH, D/s relationship?
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