Please and Thank You

Please and Thank You

The last few days have been bad ones.  My brother died, unexpectedly.  The days have been full of sadness, family traveling here and there, and all of those horrible phone calls letting friends and family know what happened.  My husband has been my rock during this time.  Steady, strong, and there with a waiting embrace and shoulder to cry on.  Despite the circumstances surrounding my brother, I can’t help but feel incredibly fortunate to have my husband in my life to be there with me during this time.

In the back of my mind, I had wondered if this recent tragedy would change what we were doing, with regard to domestic discipline and our new lifestyle.  It certainly was not a focus for those first few days, though my husband did give me a few stern looks when my tone was less than respectful.  Last night, however; he reminded me exactly what happens to wives (or at least his wife) who forget to say please when they make a request of their husband.

To be honest, I don’t even remember what the request was.  But, my husband looked me in the eye and said calmly, “you forgot to say please”.  My tummy immediately filled with butterflies.  And then came the dreaded command, “Go into the bedroom, kneel on the bench, and take your panties down”.  I hate to admit that I did not comply immediately.  I think a part of me was testing him…would he really paddle me right now?  That earned me 10 extra swats.  Yes, he was really going to paddle my bare bottom right now.

While I waited in our bedroom for him to join me, kneeling on the bench at the foot of our bed, panties around my knees, I felt a sense of calm come over me.  While I dread my husband’s paddle (which is what he always uses for this particular offense), I knew I needed this release.  The release of emotion, the release of pain.  For those of you in this lifestyle, you know that spankings can be cathartic.

When my husband first told me weeks ago that he was requesting I say please for any request of him, he told me that my paddle swats would increase every time that I forgot.  He started with 10.  The next offense earned me 20, and this time, I earned 30.  However, my lack of immediate obedience earned me an extra 10, so I was due for 40 swats.  He made me count every single one of them.  I was crying by 20.  The last ten he delivered even harder and every single swat was to my sit spot.  Needless to say, sitting on this bottom is a bit difficult this morning.  I am very grateful for my padded chair, though I probably don’t deserve it.

Perhaps some may think it odd that I would write about such a thing during this time.  Please do not judge.  I have experienced death and loss almost constantly over the last two years and I have learned that you must grab your happiness where you can find it.  My husband and I, being very new to domestic discipline, don’t want to lose this closeness, this bond, that this lifestyle has afforded us.  I am grateful this morning that he reminded me of the importance of always saying please to him, and I will continue to thank him for the discipline that he lovingly applies.

~ Nora

Advertisements

11 thoughts on “Please and Thank You

  1. I am so sorry to hear about your brother Nora. Sending thoughts your way. I can understand the need for release and the safety and calm that it brought you. It is good that your husband was able to keep the structure for you both as I think it can be hard when you see your partner suffering emotionally to reconcile that the spanking is still needed. For me, when life gets out of control I need it more than ever, so I know where you are coming from.

    Liked by 1 person

  2. Foremost thank you for taking time and energy out of your busy life to put yourself and your thoughts and feelings out there and helping others this way. It is a sign of generosity and beauty of the soul. Second I want to express My condolences over your loss and sending you wishes for healing to you and yours (so you want them). Third I want to tell you that you do need not to apologize for doing that which works for you and your husband (and doesn’t harm anyone at that) to deal with grief and stress. Last not least I would like to contradict you, that you do not deserve a padded seat, because judging by your husbands fair and firm hand, He will give you exactly what you deserve, and if you hadnt the right to sit with a little comfort, the padded chair would not be an option 😉 I am very happy for you, that you have found the love and discipline, the structure and care that your heart craves and that you deserve.! a beautiful blog filled with love and care, genuinely awesome! thanks for sharing #StrictMotivation

    Liked by 1 person

  3. Kat and I are very sorry for your loss.

    You do not need to apologize for any action during your period of grief. We all grieve in different ways, and most of us run the gamut of emotions, but in different order.

    I have a background in psychology and the need for a cathartic release during this period is very normal, as is the need to continue regular routines to remind you that life goes on.
    — AJT

    Liked by 1 person

  4. My regards on the loss of your Brother. No stranger here to the loss of a loved one. Last year, 2016, I lost 4 family members. The last two were especially tough. My sister passed in early Dec and the day we laid her to rest, my Mother passed that evening. Earlier in the year another Sister and a Nephew passed.

    The spanking you received was justified. You disobeyed a rule in not saying please. The extra strokes were due to the reluctance of obeying his direction to prepare for your spanking. Carry on, my friend.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you, spanked cowboy…and my condolences on your losses as well. Life is so fragile. Learning to live with grief has been one of my greatest challenges.

      Like

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s