Last night, my husband gave me my weekly reminder spanking and then sent me to the corner to think on my behavior. He instructed me to think about what it means to be a good girl this week. After standing in the corner for what felt like forever with my well-spanked backside on display, while considering what he had said, he told me that I could come out and we had our post-spanking talk. I told him some of the things that I had come up with. I also suggested writing a blog about what it means for me to be a good girl this week as an assignment to be completed for him and he agreed. Yesterday, prior to spanking me during our conversation about my behavior during the week, he complimented my efforts with creating the blog. He told me he was very proud of me. It made me feel very loved that he took the time to read my blog posts and that they pleased him. So here I am, Monday morning, coffee in hand, sitting on a fairly-sore and well-spanked bottom, writing about what it will mean for me to be a good girl this week.
My husband often sends me texts during the day, communicating to me what he would like to see get done that day. This often includes things like getting my work done (much of my professional work is done at home), getting our bills paid, cleaning projects, exercising, etc. So, first on my list, would be to obey him promptly with all my assignments without question (sometimes I catch myself trying to negotiate, especially about exercise). Next, I would consider my attitude. I struggled greatly in having a pleasing attitude the last two weeks as my Daddy (I love this term of endearment for my husband and so does he) was gone from home for work for an entire week and then was very sick the next week when he returned. While I still took great care of him physically while he was sick, emotionally I acted out as I experienced feelings of great loneliness. Working on my attitude at all times, regardless of situation, needs to be on the list. While Daddy certainly supports the expression of my feelings, he does not allow me to sulk around the house or say bitchy comments to him regardless of how I am feeling. With that in mind, I think I will also work hard this week to do extra things for Daddy, to show him that I am trying to improve my behavior…things like, doing some of his chores, writing him a love letter, or baking or buying a special treat he enjoys.
Everything considered, here is my list.
To demonstrate that I am a good girl this week:
- I will obey Daddy promptly, no questions asked, no negotiations.
- I will maintain a pleasing, submissive attitude. If something makes me unhappy, I will discuss it maturely with Daddy and not sulk or pout around the house.
- I will not procrastinate.
- I will work out 3-4 times this week, without complaint.
- I will keep the kitchen clean and the house picked up.
- I will spend time thinking of extra ways to brighten Daddy’s day.
Now that it is in writing, I feel a bit relieved. Sometimes, just seeing what is expected of you, having that structure, makes it easier to be better behaved. I will show my husband this list today, and make revisions as necessary per his request.
One last reflection…I love living this life with my husband. I do not find it demeaning or degrading as a woman that my husband spanks me for misbehavior or that he provided firm guidance in my daily life. I am a strong woman and I know that my husband admires that quality in me. It is this strength that allows me to submit to his authority and while there are still days that this is difficult, I am dedicated to improving myself for him, for us, and for myself. I will be a good girl this week.
~ Nora
Finding Strength in my Submission 
I just want to say that you are learning. I bet he is pleased with you.
I agree with you that, if done right,a woman should feel more like a woman than women ever did before CDD/DD. I HATE the term abuse when it comes to this life. It is NOT abuse when done with love and respect. To call it abuse is to prove that people have no idea what this is all about. It has NOTHING to do with abuse. It is called lining things up the way God intended the marriage relationship to be. And i believe, though there is are no verses that say it, but I believe that they even had Domestic Discipline in the bible day. Adam spanked Eve, Abraham spanked Sara, David spanked Bathsheba and may any of his many wives, and so on. Like I said, I have no proof, though some I have talked to say that there are verses that suggest it happened. But to say that it is abuse is ignorant and bias, as well as just plain obnoxious.
Sorry for my rant. It just makes me mad when they tie this in with domestic violence, even on the internet.
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My husband read this comment on his lunch break and he said yes, he is very pleased with me. To be honest, I don’t know the bible well enough to make any comments on what you wrote. But I absolutely agree that couples who enter into domestic discipline relationships willingly, are not committing abuse on one another. As I read on one of your blogs, it takes a very strong woman to be able to submit to her husband and to submit to her discipline.
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https://lurvspanking.com/2017/01/05/submission-without-consent-or-choice-is-abuse/
The link pretty much sums up my opinion.
That’s a good list. 🙂
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Thank you for the link! I feel that my consent was given when I entered into this commitment of domestic discipline with my husband. Neither of us feel that I need a “safe word” as we both trust that my husband will discipline me fairly. Do my spankings hurt? Heck yes. Sometimes when I am being spanked all I can think is that I wish it would stop because it hurts that much. But, when it is over, and my husband holds me and tells me how much he loves me, and I feel my love and adoration for him overwhelm me, I know that each and every spanking was worth it.
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Two things.
1. The husbands authority in the home is given by God, and was that way all the way back to Adam and Eve. So the wife does not need to give him permission.
2. I think that if you are going to do this it cannot be a pastime thing. My position on it is this. Once you agree on it, it should be until death do you part, just like marriage should be. If you stop doing it, then all you prove is that it was a game. You were not serious. And if she can say, she doesn’t want it anymore and can play this game where she picks and chooses when and when not, then she violates the word of God when it comes to marriage, because she holds the power. And that is NOT how God designed it.
That is my position on the subject.
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Nora, I have to ask. Where do you get these pics at? I don’t see things like this on google images, or even bing.
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I just wanted to say to umrules2, that although I disagree with your premise, I respect your opinion and lifestyle. My viewpoint is different, having both grown up in an abusive home, and knowing many people of all genders, who have likewise been abused, many in the name of religion. No amount of biblical verses can alter the fact that too many men abuse woman each and every day. Spanking in and of itself is not abuse, so long as it is a mutual decision to begin the process. Once begun, then the Dominate partner makes the decisions.
Like I said, you have your stance, and I have mine. So, we disagree; I’m okay with that.
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I tend to favor Yahoo images. I usually search “old fashioned spankings”, “submissive spankings”, or “black and white spankings”…hope this is helpful!
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Hello Nora I just wanted to say my Dom and I (this is a fairly new relationship) started out reading Marie’s blogs and absolutely loved them but though her we found you and we have started reading yours from the beginning and love them so far just as much, thank you for writing and giving us more things to discuss and ideas for our own future together
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Thank you for this incredibly thoughtful comment, bobbijeanj! It makes me so happy to know that my blog might be helpful to people. Wishing you and your new Dom all the best! Please feel free to reach out if you have any questions about our journey, or with anything else I might be able to help with. I certainly do not know all, but I’ve had a few experiences. D/s and DD….is so THRILLING! 🙂
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